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Is time slowing down for anyone else as they heal?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Newlife33, Feb 7, 2019.

  1. Newlife33

    Newlife33 Fapstronaut

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    One of the most interesting and difficult things I've had to deal with during my reboot is time. When I was deep in my addiction life, time felt like it was racing by a mile a minute. Now that I am slowing down, it's amazing the amount of time that seems to be in a day. I get home at around 5 and things are just easy.....the time just moves.

    My issue now is filling that time in with positive activities, because with things seemingly moving so slow it's very easy to get stir crazy, bored or fall back into bad habits. Just wanted to see if anyone can relate.
     
  2. I totally agree! And while it may be all in our heads, who cares? I also am finding I am able to think more clearly. I could never really stay on task before. I have the patience now to begin and finish something. Hooray!
     
  3. Iamdone

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    Interesting, for myself I think things are much slower because things aren’t chaotic. As much as I was addicted to porn I was addicted to chaos too.
     
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    My day especially the weekends would be centered around pmo. I would spend hours on camsites or searching for a video to act out to and before I knew it the day would be over and I got nothing accomplished my apartment would reflect how I felt on the inside, dirty. When I go thru a day with no pmo I have so much time so I find myself making to do lists. Best of luck to you all and may we all use our time wisely.
     
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  5. Angus McGyver

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    What you say definitely makes sense I have experienced that myself. I remember after almost two weeks of NoFap, everything started to slow down (both on the in- and outside), the energy surged and I got in a totally new mood and sense of control.
     
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  6. WretchedBoy

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    I can absolutely agree with that. I started to reflect on my lifestyle only because I always felt rushed and stressed. It was as if time ran like sand through my fingers. I couldn´t get a grip on it, I would always feel isolated and seperatet from all the others around me because I just felt my own life racing away and didn´t know what to do against it... Realizing this and starting to look for a cause and solution brought me to NoFap and I can´t tell you how glad I am.

    Now, after 98 days without P, I seem to recognize much more of the world and people around me and when I take a walk I conciously slow down my step to enjoy the moment better. It feels as if I am starting to adjust my own inner clock to the actual pace of the world around me again. It is undescribingly good to experience this.
     
  7. Newlife33

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    Yes, thank you for mentioning this. I was also a chaos addict. Even saying that word triggers me a bit and brings me back to a certain time and place. I am going to work more on this and try to detach from the attraction to that feeling. Thank you for your comment
     
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    Yooooooooooo I feel you on the apartment reflecting how you feel on the inside. I've been sick this week and going thru a lot of depression and my apartment is just a mess. I was in bed yesterday and I finished drinking a seltzer and I just threw it across the room on the floor because it felt like the right thing to do. Part of me wants to try and fight the depression but another part of me feels like I have to sit with in and let it play out.

    And I feel you on the lists and how they are helpful. It's pretty incredible how much of a difference it makes just to write something down.
     
  9. Newlife33

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    I find that especially true in the gym. When I am really on and tuned in I can explode that energy into a workout and use the energy for good instead of wasting it on porn.
     
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    I can't wait to get back to that place. I had a crazy week in therapy last month in which I figured out a lot of things about my depression and it threw me into a spiral and I relapsed a bunch and am back to feeling disconnected. I hope to use you and your story as an inspiration to move forward and do better and get back to that connected place.
     
  11. WretchedBoy

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    That´s what I hoped to reach by sharing my experiences. I´m so glad it helps you.
     
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    It did. When I read your message it reminded me of a night in my city where I just walked around and appreciated all the plants that people had in their windows. They were all so beautiful and green and nice. It was such a small thing to notice but brought me so much joy. Can't wait to feel those small joys again soon.
     
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  13. WretchedBoy

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    That is exactly what I talk about. Just this morning I had one of these little sensations on my five minute walk to work: I left my flat already thinking about what I would have to do at work today, then stopped mentally and told myself I could think about that as soon as I had reached my office. I took a breath and slowed down my step, focusing on the fresh morning air and tried to clear my head. A few steps later I passed a tree with a small fluffy bird sitting on a branch, chirping out a funny little melody. As I reached my office minutes later I was still smiling about this beautiful little creature...

    I can´t tell you how stupid and insignificant the thought of writing down stuff like this would have felt for me just a few weeks ago. Today feeling immediate and unfiltered emotions caused by something so natural and small almost makes me break down in tears of relieved.
     
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    I have experienced it too. Iam a student and when i was under PMO i couldnt find time to complete studying for exams, but now i could confidently accomodate more subjects within the timeframe and yes when not under PMO time gets crazy slow.
     

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