What does intimacy mean to you?

Intimacy is about being open and honest with someone when the time calls for it . I can see how you find that scary but you have to realize everyone is not the right fit for you and holding back people pleasing is the exact opposite of intimacy. Show up as you and find people that like you just as you are also like yourself just as you are don't hide yourself BE PROUD OF YOURSELF

 

This is an interesting topic. I've been in and out of a few relationships and I can honestly say that I haven't been the greatest of partners. Porn has played a major role in influencing my relationships, making them more sex driven as opposed to actual connection. Since I started NoFap I've had to really at intimacy and what it really means to me. I've been in the same place you are where I find myself inadequate and lacking the courage to approach people that I have genuine interest in. However I'm just going to pursue this journey and face these issues as they arise and hopefully I'll find the courage and the peace I want.

 

So what does intimacy mean to you? Is it just sex?

 

What even is normal?

 

When I think of intimacy I think of my girlfriend and I cuddling naked in bed and looking into each others eyes, rubbing noses, laughing, kissing, massaging one another, talking, the feeling of total comfort being together in that moment where nothing else matters, and it’s not scary it’s the greatest feeling in the world once you embrace it and realize how special moments like that are.

Compare it to what you see in porn, which is so cold, robotic and void of love entirely.

 

Intimacy is a mental connection for me. The feeling that even at your worst day, seeing the person you're intimate with just absolves you of the weight on your shoulders. That you can share a moment that suspends reality. The biggest fear is after having it, that it's so easy to lose. A connection we think is one of a kind, and any others after wont be as potent.

 

I would say intimacy means being able to feel vulnerable, and emotionally accepted without needing to wear an mask.

 

I agree, and would add that it's also about emotionally accepting your partner in their vulnerability. Intimacy has to be a two-way mutual acceptance.

 

Intimacy to me is to just be your complete self around someone who accepts you for that and someone you can stand/tolerate/accept them for being their complete self around you. That's when you are intimate, when you guys can release that energy and bounce it off one another. I look at intimacy and love as intertwined. If you can accept them for them, then it's love. If you can be yourself around someone then you are intimate. Hope that makes sense. In theory it should be a beautiful thing to be intimate with one another (something I'm working on...slowly but surely lol).

 

To me it's about opening up to someone you love with any fear that they will judge you for who you're. It's very difficult to do as we natural create a layer around our feelings to protect ourselves from the bad people in the world

 

passionate, every day sex till your dick gets sore

 

Seriously, this is intimacy for you?! Man, that's sad.

 

i cant think of anything else tbh ngl. thats what i feel like

 

If intimacy to you is just lots of sex, something vital is missing.

Sex, obviously, is a part of intimacy.

But there's also trust, companionship, sharing, mutual acceptance, closeness, and more. These are absent in a sex-only relationship, such as with a porn video.

 

i miss sex so...

i could just get a pet for that lol

 

From your comments, @PrayingForAscension, I take it that you've never experienced intimacy.

It's something for you to look forward to.

Enter a relationship not for the sex, but for the intimacy. Sex goes on top of that, like tasty icing on a tasty cake.

You will learn something that you will never turn your back on.

 

true, i havent so i dont understnd it as a concept

i cant enter anything because i look like a creepy serial killer lol