What forbidding you from having real sex with a woman?

Two reasons. The first reason being that I lack the social skills that would be needed to convince a woman to hook up with me. The second reason is that it's against my religion to have sex outside of the context of marriage (I'm a conservative christian).

 

I used to have sex with the hottest women out there (girlfriends of course) but now I don't want to have sex (or girlfriend) because I am very aware that I am attracting toxic women into my life so I work on my self (sort of spiritually) and trying to change this programming in my head. When I start to attract healthy women then I will eventually open up myself for having a girlfriend. I don't sleep with strange women and never did. I don't need to pick up the energies of strangers.

 

It will sound weird but i always felt like i don't deserve to get women. Even if some showed interest in me, it would feel weird. Like when someone wants to double your salary but you know you don't deserve it.

I just wrote about this today, i think porn and masturbation conditioned me to be "low rank" or "low status" and make no claim or attempts on women (on reproduction basically). https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...a-right-and-dont-get-to-breed-he-does.216367/

Even when i got women i just sabotaged myself and the relationship to get out and be single. It was like i was trained not to reproduce. I also used to be very submissive even if I could put on a "mask" and be dominant.

I had sex but didn't feel like I deserve it.

 

I can't speak for all the virgins on here, but being one is my biggest barrier. Having that want for sex, to lose your virginity feels like the be-all-end-all of life but that being on my mind tends to stop me from taking the steps towards actually getting to that point.

My brain has this constant cycle of: develop intense crush on a girl, obsess over her, eventually pluck up the courage to ask her out, get rejected and never fully get over it until the crush exits my life, rinse and repeat. All the while barely having the motivation to take steps to improve myself.

Knowing I could just go "buy a shag" is out of the question, I ain't lowering myself that far.

 

An apartment .

 

And Hard Mode.

 

Thats a good question, thank u for asking it. I think for me... its a couple of possibilites here, firstly in most of my relationships i have acted like an asshole and hurt many people, this now makes me a little wary of my intentions which stops me from letting loose as i did when i was young. Secondly i have also been hurt by people i have had sexual relationships with, this makes me wary to trust in those situations a lot. Porn and escorts actually just seemed like a rational choice until well i ended up here in tears basically, so i guess im dying for real intimacy with no way to have it that doesnt challenge my old wounds etc and now i have a monster of an addiction to boot

 

Have quitted PM 2 years ago. Only one relapse 52 days ago since april 2017. Nothing stops me from having sex now

 

If I have the opportunity I will do, however, at the moment my intention is beyond stopping pornography, also not ejaculate. I need to be sure where my excess fatigue comes from. I do sports and I need to improve my health.

Let me give you a tip: Quit going after women who are different from you. Frequent places you like and will meet someone unintentionally. Go in a meditation class, pilates, yoga. You have many nice women.