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At what point in a reboot can you add dating/real sexual activity?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Stack101, Feb 23, 2019.

  1. Stack101

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    Just wondering how long you should wait until you start talking to girls/being sexually active/dating and all that. Like when is it safe to do that? And how long? Because I don’t wanna have to stay away from girl for the next 8 months.

    Thanks!
     
  2. CH3RRY

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    I'd say it depends on your personal recovery. If you don't have any problems like PIED and your porn addiction has faded, you're good to go. But honestly, I think it takes quite a while for you to truly get rid of the addiction. I quit masturbating around 6 months ago, but still occasionally watched porn. That was a mistake. During day time, I wouldn't get any urges to masturbate or watch porn or anything. But then at nighttime, I would be hit with a strong temptation out of no where. I'd go search for something mild, but it was still porn. Then I would stop immediately, but the imagery was already in my head. I was just keeping my addiction alive, feeding my brain with explicit content. Still nowadays, I experience this. 0 urges to do anything during day time, but nighttime is a different story. I'm just sitting there and might be hit with an urge. It's the addiction still lurking in my brain. It's not done yet, I gotta abstain from porn completely till the addiction is 100% dead. I don't know if you experience this, but I'm sure most do and they fall for it. You might watch a little bit of porn and then not do it for a few weeks, and then do it again. You're just keeping the addiction alive. You should get rid of all your problems, so they won't hinder your life later on.
     
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  3. Capt. U

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    For me I am starting to look into dating even though I have not had a 30 day streak yet. The onky reason being is because I like talking to women and looking for a potential partner.
     
  4. mcouepa

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    I’ve been really tempted to date right now (on day 56 of my streak) but I think I’ve decided to just go ahead and wait until 90 days. I want to make sure I’ve given myself enough time before I try to date
     
  5. MusicMakingMonk

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    Some would advice for real dating as it can provide the effect of "rewiring". So instead of having your sexuality and orgasm related neurons be connected to the act of watching porn and masturbating, you rewire and connect them to the sensation of a real person.
    Do this at your own caution though, if you're still heavily suffering from urges, or have not faced the deeper reasons for why you became addicted in the first place, it can happen that you will be overly need and potentially land into a nasty co-dependent situation.
    Doesn't have to all be that grim though, but hey, if you feel young and spry, and you're looking around and there's a girl you like, more power to you. You can date for a while before you have sex anyways (which I think is a smart way to go about it anyways, sex is a more powerful thing then many realise).
     
  6. Stack101

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    Great advice, thanks!
     
  7. Stack101

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    So I hear some people say wait until 90 days. Would it have to be later than that in some cases? Or earlier?
     

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