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Constant Relapsing due to life event

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Cool guy tough guy, Feb 28, 2019.

  1. Cool guy tough guy

    Cool guy tough guy Fapstronaut

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    So my little brother's wedding just happened and I'm a kissless virgin, who tried to use porn to numb the pain. I've been called ugly my whole life and Ik it's the main reason I was never in a relationship. The worst part is my brother delayed his marriage a few months cause he didn't want me to seem like such a loser and give me an opportunity to find someone, but I failed to do so. I'm an incel and feel like a loser at this point in my life, so if anyone would be willing to help me out, please leave a comment.
     
  2. LilD

    LilD Fapstronaut

    Just being a virgin doesn't make you a loser. Try to raise your self-esteem by doing some positive changes in your lifestyle. NoFap is just one of the possible changes, but try to get good at something: sports, music, art, etc., whatever is interesting to you. That will attract women too, but do it for yourself. That's your life, and it is not about doing what others want you to do, it's about fulfilling your own wishes and achieving your own goals.

    Relapsing is expected, and it doesn't make you a loser either. Just analyze what's causing it, make a plan of how to avoid/fix it, or at least recover from slips as quickly as possible. You will get it eventually.
     
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  3. Cool guy tough guy

    Cool guy tough guy Fapstronaut

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    I go to the gym daily and have gotten a fair bit of muscle. I was my sports team's MVP for the 2018 season and I don't think my behaviour is that bad as a person. My face is horrible and I've been told that I need plastic surgery. My social skills are fairly bad and I have crippling anxiety.
     
  4. LilD

    LilD Fapstronaut

    Do you have friends who support you? I find that friends are the true solution to my mental problems.
     
  5. Cool guy tough guy

    Cool guy tough guy Fapstronaut

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    I am a loner and suffer from extreme anxiety. To the point where it's difficult to breathe
     
  6. LilD

    LilD Fapstronaut

    Try to make some friends IRL. (And online too, but IRL is much more helpful.) I'm sure some people will accept you with your anxiety.
     
  7. Momoimy79

    Momoimy79 New Fapstronaut

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    I'm sure if you get past your conviction that you're ugly you'll get better. Raise your self esteem it's not only about the good looks. It's your personality, your quirks that are more attractive than actual looks. Tryto get some support system. You are not alone in this
     
  8. Cool guy tough guy

    Cool guy tough guy Fapstronaut

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    I have tried all that stuff. Learning game and whatnot, but I've been told on r/braincels that it's my looks and from what I've found out, it's true.
     

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