I feel more depressed when I step outside

maybe you could interact more with relatives if they're close by and practice with them?

 

I can literally see it in your way of writing.. ( your sorrow)

I read about a nice practice a while ago, where all you gotta do is go out , pick a place where many people walk by, and sit there ,stay there,for hours. In the guide you were suposed to sit on your bottom ,not like a bench or something.

You will notice that very few people even care about you being there, you will gain more confidence sitting around people. Just getting used with seeing and having plenty of other people looking at you.

You can try it. I definitely wantet to try it but I'm already quite healed. Still, I might get to try it one day to fully boost my confidence.

 

Comparison is the thief of joy, and also its a common cognitive distortion to think you know more than you do about what's going on with other people. So first off throw that out.

Start doing basic breath meditation if you're not already. Start working out if you're not already. Resistance training is good for releasing testosterone.

Study and practice this -

Read and apply my post here - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/shyness-and-social-awkwardness.215765/#post-1906523

 

Practice going out by yourself and getting comfortable in your own skin. If you're old enough to drink, go to a pizza pub with a book. Make small-talk with people. If you're not comfortable in your own skin, why? Is it your physique, work on it and get in shape; wear well fitting clothes that you're comfortable in.

 

Practice makes perfect . . .

 

No problem man. I used to be painfully shy a while back. So much so that I would rather go running in the dark evening rather than the day time. That's how bad my self-confidence was. The person I am today is a total 180 from that person in the past that I described. Anyone can change.

 

Yeah, I would say that for most people who are painfully shy, most of it is just an irrational fear/paranoia. Most people are too busy doing their own thing to be so focused on others, and if they do focus on them, it is for a short while like until they've walked past.

 

Hey OP,
I am currently 26 and I feel like I have huge mental blocks as well, although no one has advised me to interact with people I attempt to do that on my own, but yeah it's immensely tough. Please don't lose hope on this reboot! I have also been dealing with depression for what feels like a decade and I just recently lost a job so I am barely hanging in there, I am so thankful for family. Some of my best days have been to try and shrug off all the negative things people might say and I engulf myself in positive songs or videos in order to move forward. I know it can get better if we keep talking about it! I hope you are doing ok today or have had a better day compared to the non interactive ones.

 

As long as we still have a small light within us that can never be extinguished...no matter what storms may come our way. I'm glad I could make the time to listen to you and let you know you're not alone in this fight.

 

You sure type a lot of dots. I felt the same so I didn't went outside at all, then I was forced to go outside, it got a bit better.

 

You’ve got to have interest in others, show interest in them and many will show interest in you. Selfish thinking is “they aren’t interested in me”. Well why are “they” interesting?
Obviously you’ve got to gear it towards people with some similar interests to yourself.
I’m learning too, to show interest in others aspirations and not just my own. It’s surprisngly hard to do but wonderful if you can get good at it!