Let the journey begin

Hello friend, Welcome to the community.
It's time for you to overcome this addiction and move on., That's why that event happened and good to know that SO agreed to stay and help. Just stay strong, positive, honest, patient and trust the process.
I wish you all the best.

 

Hey, man. I dealt with a similar situation. My wife found out about my addiction and agreed to stand by me if I worked through it and sought help. I know the situation can seem hopeless, but you can find freedom. It is possible. I’m glad you found this community. It has been a big help to me. This journey is not an easy one, but if you put in the work and are willing to learn and grow you can find success. Do it for your marriage but also for yourself. You deserve to live a full life - not just one that is weighed down by addiction. I wish you all the best, @Overcoming2019!

 

My wife and started couple counseling. We also began meeting with individual therapists too. It has been a huge help for us. We realized that this journey not only deals with us as a couple, but it also has a lot to do with who we are as individuals. I understand the lack of trust. My wife and I are slowly building that back. My wife was furious with me at first. I almost got thrown out of the house. Now, however, we are mending so many things that we didn’t even know were broken. I don’t know if any of this answers your questions. I definitely recommend counseling, though, if that is something you would be interested in.

 

I’m definitely still in the process of recovery. Some days are easier and others are hard. You are right that there are underlying issues. I grew up in a shaming culture that caused me to repress my feelings. It made me have lots of self-doubt, and I know that it helped to fuel my addictive behaviors. I ran away from my feelings instead of dealing with them. My brain is still being rewired. It is going to take some time. My urges come in waves. Some weeks they are minor, but other times they still try to knock me down. Here are the things that have been helpful to me.

1. Exercise - it has helped me to feel better physically. It has given me a positive outlet for my energy.
2. Honesty - I have been open and honest with my wife about the process and how I am doing with it. This has aided the rebuilding of trust.
3. Community - I have been an active participant of NoFap, reading people’s stories, sharing ideas, and encouraging others. I have also joined a local SAA group and attended the meetings once a week.
4. Faith - My faith in God has wavered in the past, but I am working to mend what has been broken.

I don’t know how many of these things are applicable to you or interest you, but I at least wanted to share in case they were helpful. You can do this, man!

 

Hi man, first of all, congrats to seeing there was a problem. The hardest part is seeing that we have an addiction.
The fact that you want to make a difference is a huge step. I myself am struggling with a porn addiction so believe me you're not alone. A few things I have found to help is talking about the subject with close friends and family if possible and visiting an addiction specialist. Nofap is of course also a great place to help each other out. Personally, I found it quite difficult conversing on nofap as you don't always receive notifications when people comment or start a new conversation so if you and other members would be interested in chatting on a whatsapp group just to encourage each other and make sure we get through the 3 months without cheating, let me know and I will happily send you my number ?

 

Hi mate, I'm in France so you will likely need to add some digits. Will send you my number via PM