[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

RiseToGreatness · Mar 10, 2019

Curly lee jones said: ↑

Wow i feel really nice to see that htere is just another day without PMO, I have had ups and downs regarding my feelings, in terms of energy i feel better. one day at a time. i realize it is not a good idea to think in long terms of time...one day is enough.
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exactly my friend, let´s go!!! we can do this, we will do this.

RiseToGreatness · Mar 10, 2019

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FreeyaMind · Mar 10, 2019

I'm in, I just got to 45 days and relapsed. I know I can do it this time, 90 Day reboot lets get it!

Marin333! · Mar 10, 2019

Day 40/90
PMO, Don't stop me now

Enginakos · Mar 10, 2019

Day 5 check in after a nice sociable weekend. My kisses to all of you guys

Redwood76 · Mar 10, 2019

Day 2 checkin, great weekend, resisting urges and staying strong.

A Metaphorical Biscuit · Mar 10, 2019

Day 4

Fredi-the · Mar 10, 2019

Day 44/90
Tomorrow is the half way point which I have been looking forward to for quite a while. Can't imagine how good it is going to feel when I hit day 90. I must stay humble to the process though or a fap could easilty sneak up on me a ruin my streak. Especially with me being alone in the house for a week while the wife takes off for spring break. Stay strong boys (and self)! You got this

renaissancemerveilleuse · Mar 10, 2019

Robofighter88 said: ↑

I relapsed Iam starting again 0/90
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Ain’t no thing, brother robo !

Blessings and keep it joyful !

A Metaphorical Biscuit · Mar 10, 2019

So I relapsed again, just an hour or so after posting 'Day 4'. I was going to come on here to say there's no point me being on this site, I've relapsed thrice and perhaps shouldn't be here, when I saw the below post by RiseToGreatness. I think the bit about accepting that you are not going to go back to PMO made sense the most but was something I'd kinda ignored, almost like I was assuming I could get to day 90 and then PMO away...that sort of mindset (for me at least) made it easier to relapse, cos you were only doing what you would be doing in a couple of months, right?

So to cut a long story short, I'm reinstalling my internet blocker (I had it down to stop any and all internet past a certain point, was working wonders but then 'lifted' it for tonight to 'reply to something else', even though I knew that left me open to PMO temptation) and keeping it that way, and restarting this challenge with the intention of continuing long after day 90 has gone. Support/prayer/a metaphorical biscuit would be nice, thanks for supporting me so far despite my muck ups

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i think i´m gonna create a copy/paste post for new brothers let´s start now

welcome brother, stay with us, sharing not only motivates you but also motivate others. here´s some pointers:

1 - know your enemy. read this book "wack: addicted to internet porn" from noah church, it´s free on his website.
2 - recognize beyond any doubt that your an addicted. not someone who has a bad habit. on "wack" there´s a test to see how deep is the addiction and how much is damaging you.
3 - once you accept the truth, recognize that you can´t control PMO usage, don´t waste precious time of your life trying to fit porn in your life. you can´t control this thing, see for yourself, if you could control this you wouldn´t be an addict in the first place. the only way to break free from the addiction is to abstain from all sexual stimulation till a point you have no desire to PMO. 90 days usually is the standard time, sometimes it may take long.
4 - motivate yourself daily to do the reboot. motivate several times especially in the first weeks, cause the urges and porn thoughts will be very alive and kicking. motivation can come from a text, a video, a music, whatever, anything that reminds you do keep doing the reboot.
5 - create physical barriers against PMO cause willpower alone will not do. this means install porn blockers and usage of electronic devices with screens facing exposure. in extreme measures forbide yourself from being alone.
6 - delete any sexual/erotic material that you have. if you keep something with you that means you´re keeping the flame alive.
7 - withdrawal is hard, sometimes harder than the addiction. but after some days/weeks the withdrawal ends, the addiction never ends. Prepare yourself for fatigue, irritation, deep sadness, insomnia, brain fog, headaches, etc... but don´t worry, after a while energy will start to rise and you´ll feel amazing . it´s worth all the efforts. to minimize withdrawal stay well fed, hidratated, an build a good sleep hygiene. sleeping pills and antidepressives can also help. don´t get drunk, excessive alcohol prevents your brain for rewiring, leads to (extra) fatigue, irritation and brain fog. it will also deplete your willpower making you more likely to relapse.
8 - in the reboot you´ll have flatline periods (total absence of sexual desire) and periods of strong urges.
9 - to deal with urges my recommendation is to let them be, just observe them, don´t engage in them. keep doing whatever you´re doing. the urge may be very strong, but it will pass, it will pass totally. in extreme cases, click the panic button on nofap, get out of the house or take a cold shower.
10 - do physical exercise regularly. that will boost your mood and release sexual energy in a positive way.
11 - write a goodbye letter to porn. be brutally honest. an addiction is also a relationship so cry your heart out, say all the things you want to say, and say goodbye.
12 - keep busy. this is the step i found more important (side by side with the daily nofap motivation). why? because you´re not only abstaining from porn/masturbation, you have to replace those behaviours for others. or else porn will return, no matter how much time as gone by. so fill the free time, work on your passions, live your dreams. one day at a time, create an epic life.
13 - the addictive mind will not break easily. it´s likely that you´re gonna relapse, relapse a lot. the key is too keep going, never give up. if you don´t give up you will make it, it´s garanteed. so in each relapse try to know something about yourself, how your mind works, what are the triggers. knowledge is power.
14 - avoid any kind of sexual stimulation, whether by touch, sound or image. stimulation will create dopamine rushs in the already unbalanced brain, increase urges and after that is hard to stop. so don´t believe your mind if it tells you to peak or edge. it never wants just that. after that, the addiction will kick in strongly and start pounding and pounding until it breaks you and put you on your knees. so it´s better to not even start. if you have a partner and want to have normal sex try to abstain at least on the first weeks to give your brain a rest.
15 - you can never go back to porn. this probably is the harshest truth you can hear (it was mine, and it is for many people) but it´s the truth nevertheless. why? 3 major reasons. 1 - you´ll be an ex-addicted, that means you will always have a soft spot for porn. if you engage in PMO again, sooner or later you´ll become an addict, again. 2 - PMO happens in isolation, there´s no social PMO, which means that not only your likely to associate exciting feelings to PMO behaviour, but also negative feelings, which means that you´ll associate PMO with pretty much everything that happens to you. in fact, that is the core mechanism for any addiction installation. 3 - in high speed internet, there´s an infinite suply of sexual material, new sexual material. dopamine is released on your brain not only by viewing and fapping but also by searching novely. once you give your brain a taste of the "stuff" it will crave for more. always more.
16 - breaking away from any hope of going back to PMO will make the reboot stronger and determinated. also, all ex-addicts firmly agree that no one ever wants to go back to porn cause life now is too good to be true, too good to go back to hell.

i wish you the best luck, strengh and focus my brother. don´t think on the 90 days, don´t think on the castle. just take it one day at a time, one stone at a time. believe in yourself, you can do it.
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renaissancemerveilleuse · Mar 10, 2019

Daily checkady check in my brothers !

Day 48

A little more clarity and direction everyday !

Support to everyone !

MurphJames · Mar 10, 2019

Day 1

Harrylucid · Mar 10, 2019

Day 12/90 hu preparing for one more day I got an urge yesterday. . . Come on we all can do it . The distance between thoughts and reality is what is required *AcTiOn*

GuillaumeDujardin · Mar 10, 2019

On day 13. yesternight was not quite peaceful. Constant wet dream and first nocturnal emission since nofap. just cross my fingers and hope the rest days will be okay.

Nekkhamma · Mar 10, 2019

15/90...just...keep...going

Deleted Account · Mar 10, 2019

RiseToGreatness said: ↑

learn bro, and go again. you´ll fall lots of times, get used to it.

each relapse a new information, each relapse a new determination. go!
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Got it bro! Thank you for the encouragement, I'm starting from 0 again today, and I believe I can do it!

spaces · Mar 10, 2019

Checking in day 44/90.

Cody Dinh · Mar 10, 2019

On day 21. Check in. I'm reaching 30 days challenge. I can't wait it. Be strong and yourself.

Srisurya · Mar 10, 2019

Day 26 failed. Relapsed. Actually twice. One without and then with P. I will get back to track as fast as I can. Cheers guys.

Marin333! · Mar 10, 2019

Srisurya said: ↑

Day 26 failed. Relapsed. Actually twice. One without and then with P. I will get back to track as fast as I can. Cheers guys.
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Take this failure as an opportunity to start again, but this time as a stronger and wiser you
Once you hit the bottom there's nowhere to go but up, stay strong my friend and good luck.

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