Am I alone in thinking this?

I'm a few days ahead of you, and while I am slightly on the positive side, I can't say that I've had the resounding successes I hear of from many people on here.

I suffer from severe cases of brain fog (or something similar). I struggle to think clearly, and then similarly struggle to convey the thoughts through speech or writing. This does not feel as though it has improved in the 30 days that I have been doing this, which is a shame, because it was one of my biggest hopes when I signed up and read people's testimonies. There is still plenty of time to do this, though, and further reading that I have done since leads me to suspect that I might not really see the benefits for anything up to five months.

The social aspect hasn't changed, either. I'm no more confident - indeed, possibly less so as I am getting ever more frustrated at my struggles to function clearly and feeling fatigued much of the time. I have no greater urge to go out and find a partner, nor do I notice people speaking to me differently.

But there are benefits. I have had such a strong death grip that my penis has been bruised, to an extent that it still doesn't appear to have healed a great deal. But then, I guess I have been gripping it so tightly for so long that the damage may well be lasting and take quite some time to heal. I'm saving time, and I feel as though I am making some progress with regards to erectile dysfunction. Only carrying on will see if other great changes happen, but it could take many months. In this impatient modern world, I guess it's just going to be a case of knuckling down and getting on.

 

Everyone experiences this differently. Your mileage may vary... as they say. Bottom line is that you are loving your wife better by doing this and that's what's important. Whether you sense it or any other benefit or not is besides the point, if you ask me.

 

First of all, congratulations on making it to 26 days hard mode!

Secondly, I totally agree with ritani.

This is all too new. We just don't have enough evidence/experience to know when exactly things will get better for you. As I mentioned in a post just before, there are so many factors that can dictate your recovery time.

My mind functions so much better currently. The brain fog that people talk about is very much a thing for me and I noticed it starting to get better after the first week. But this can also come and go during your reboot. People have had wet dreams and report getting up and feeling like they've started from the beginning again. This due to the combination of the wet dream and the chaser effect.

Hang in there. Take it day by day. Try and help yourself as well, don't just expect to stop PMO and recover. You've got to take the initiative and change your life style and start being a more productive person. Engage in conversations and meet new people. You've gotta not just want to change but create change.

Good luck!

 

Manfro..concentrate on the photography its what i do!
keep going and keep posting i need to know it can be done. the very fact that you are doing this with your wife's knowledge and support shows your respect for her in lots of ways. Noticing women is kind of what we are biologically evolved to do, maybe you are just way more aware of it...like i said in a previous post..just THINKING about the nature of what arouses us on this site makes you way more vigilant. today i stopped myself watching a Rhianna video...just incase it spiralled me off into something..i am looking for triggers everywhere!

 

That is correct, it is a mind game. Part of the recovery process, an early, but somewhat annoying symptom. What matters, is that you don't watch porn, and let it be enough for now. My suggestion is, that try to look those girls in the eye, and if it's not visible for any reasons, look away. And that's it, don't dwell on it, don't bash yourself. Observe, then let it go.
Meanwhile, don't be too hard on yourself for not feeling the positive effects. If nothing else, you can always take pride in the fact, that you are doing nofap, and I'm pretty sure your wife is proud at you.

Stay strong.

 

I am just coming to the end of a BA in photographic arts at uni...its a good focus...no pun intended. This is part of what my wife calls declaring war..although i won't tell her about this...i want to insulate her from what a schmuck i can be.

 

it will be a pleasure.LWB

 

though i am not really an expert....