Sex and Nofap reebooting

It depends, healthy intimacy with a partner can help a lot but from personal experience it could also be a substitute for PMO. When I have urges without the presence of a partner than PMO takes over, but through natural playfulness and foreplay comes a form of intimacy that isn't plagued by PMO.

Sexual thoughts can effect the level of intimacy. In terms of O I find the best way to overcome relapse is to make sure you do it in moderation, of course it also depends on the level of the addiction, for an addict who's consumed it for a large portion of their life (myself) I would abstain from it completely. Until when? Sadly I'm unsure right now.

I know that sex during my reboot consumes a large part of my mental energy and especially if I'm not in a LTR(long term relationship) I'll end up chasing girls for the wrong reasons. So personally I choose to stay celibate so that I can put my mind on my other needs (wealth, career, family, friends).

 

Yeah. If you're using your S as an alternative to your PMO, it's going to be healthy.
You should stay in control even if she's not with you.
You should be focused on having S only with her.
You're ok to receive handjob, blowjob or sex from her.
Just stay alert when you're alone.

 

I had sex with a girl on the weekend. I didn't watch pornography, masturbate or release my seminal fluid, so I was happy with the experience. I wouldn't take it back.

Ultimately, it just depends on your values and what you're really trying to achieve. My goal is to preserve my seminal fluid so that my sexual energy may be utilised in the pursuit of more constructive ends.

What's your aim with all this?

Be clear on that and prioritise accordingly.

 

What does PIED mean? I keep seeing it everywhere but I don't know what it is.

I imagine it's extremely challenging to be active with a sexual partner and never release, but I've got a book called Taoist Sexual Meditation by Bruce Frantzis which teaches you how to safely have internal orgasms (among other things), so I need to get studying!

 

From my experience, (I'm no relationship expert!) open and honest communication about your sexual goals with your partner can be very helpful. What I learned from my experience is It's very possible to stimulate my mind into an orgasm however I had moments of board-line sex addiction and would continue to have sex even after ejaculation. So my challenge became controlling my behavior after Orgasm or ejaculation. This is where open communication helped me out a lot. Setting clear HEALTHY boundaries ended up working for the two of us and made higher levels of intimacy.

Also saved a crazy amount of energy, I hated how I felt after 3-4 orgasms/ejaculation. I became so uninterested with life and wanted to sleep all day.