29 Years old. Relationship of 5 years. Recently developed PIED

Hey all, I'm just wondering if anyone has any tips and similar experiences to mine. I'm 29 and have had sex with my GF about 2 times per month for about the past 5 years with no major issues other than a couple limp dick occasions. The past few times we've tried having sex though, I couldn't get it up and when she tried to help, I came in like 20 seconds. This has happened a couple times in the past but I always got over it within a week or so. This time, it's been well over a month and I still can't get it up for sex after like 3-4 separate attempts. It's pretty embarrassing but at least it's just with my GF.


Now it's hard to admit but I probably have an addiction to porn and jerking off (Been clean for 3 weeks but the urges are strong). Not just any kind of porn, fetish porn (Foot Fetish, Pantyhose Fetish). I wouldn't just watch vanilla porn as people call it, it always had to include feet and pantyhose. It's to the point where these 2 things are the only things that get me hard and I get rock hard. I'm constantly looking at girls feet in real life and it's the second thing I always look at after the face. When I see an attractive girl wearing pantyhose, I pretty much get an instaboner and fantasize about what I would do to them (not in some weird serial killer way or anything). These are things that I feel I cannot control anymore. I've tried really hard the past few weeks to try and not stare and have these thoughts but it's really really tough.


I first learned about NOFAP after googling ED and in my case, it is not physical but psychological. My GF knows about my fetishes and participates in them but I don't think she knows how extreme it is or has gotten. My GF wears pantyhose and gives me Footjobs when I ask her to but feel like I cum way too fast. Much faster than I used to.


To sum it up, I want to have Vanilla sex again. It's been like almost 2 months and I fear that my fetishes/PIED is ruining my sex life. I don't want to rely on feet and pantyhose all the time. I know that I'll always have these fetishes but want to have vanilla sex again. I also want to give it to her again heheh. Anyone have any tips/similar experiences about overcoming this disease? Also, would you recommend abstaining from sexual activity completely while reboot? No foreplay?



Thanks,

 

Thanks, good to know that someone has a similar experience to mine. It's not like I don't like ass and tits but I need to control my fetishes. Looks like no sexual activity for me :-(