37 years old, can’t have sex

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by CaliforniaGuy1982, Mar 21, 2019.

  1. CaliforniaGuy1982

    CaliforniaGuy1982 New Fapstronaut

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    I’m 37, single, no problem getting a date.

    I am unable to have sex.

    Most times, I can’t get an erection, even if the girl is super smoking gorgeous. Sometimes, I can get an erection but it won’t last long enough for completion.

    Not only is it hard to get hard, but sometimes I don’t get aroused. Like, even seeing a pretty woman walk by does nothing for me like it used to a LONG time ago.

    Health: doctor says I’m fine. Testosterone checks out. ED drugs don’t help.

    Porn/masturbation habits: daily since I was 17 or 18. Only masturbate once per day for most of my life. Porn daily.

    This has affected me emotionally, with thoughts of “i’ll Never have a real relationship again.” I haven’t had sex in 2 years. The opportunity has been there many times.

    I’m to the point where I’m dating, I just tell the girl “I’m waiting till marriage to have sex” just to avoid the guaranteed embarrassment.

    Is PIED a possible diagnosis for me? I’m at my wits end. This sucks. This really sucks.

    Any help, thx
     
  2. BigOne79

    BigOne79 Fapstronaut

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    Okay, you said no sex for two years so are you saying you have had PIED symptoms from porn for two years then..??

    Not sure what others on this board will say but do a nofap for at least a month or 90 days and see how you feel. Your wired already to have sex and I believe your libido will come back no problem. Stop the porn for sure because you are desensitized to the real thing now.

    What have you been doing so far the last two years ... already on a streak or not..

    Also wanted to ask you what your T-Level was because I am 40 and my level is low at like 332 but that comes with age as well but shouldn’t be that low. My urologist did say it was slightly on the low side so I may do some therapy for it, no testosterone replacement though.
     
  3. Fenix Rising

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    No worries mate... Been there too many times. Just practice complete celibacy for 3-6 months (no porn, edging, masturbation, orgasm, sex), exercise daily and you'll get your mojo back. Maybe even sooner. I'm the same years as you and having the same problem only worse, being daily compulsive binge masturbator for nearly 2 decades. Last year I went cold turkey for 200 days and my mojo returned after 4-5 months of celibacy. I'm talking about getting boner just when seeing hot chick in a swimsuit on the beach. I mess it up again returning to my old ways of binge MB and lost my mojo again. Now I'm practicing celibacy thing again to get my libido back. If you didn't binge MB, you might be OK much sooner, neuroscience says 2 months is the time period after which brain rewiring takes place so your PIED might recover in 2-3 months. As long as you get occasional solid morning woods during abstinence, there is nothing to worry about, as it means your ED has only mental not physical cause and can be cured with complete abstinence.
     
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  4. Welcome to the community. Read, learn and start making your plan brother.
     
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  5. Warthog

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    You are not alone and a LOT of people on this site have exactly the same problems. Good news is that staying away from PMO works. Symptoms of PIED get better, for some people after like a month, for some people longer. Stay away from PMO and you'll be alright.
     

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