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Can fantasizing be considered edging?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by OntoANewLife, Mar 25, 2019.

  1. Mar 25, 2019 #1
    OntoANewLife

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    This streak has been my best, but it has also been the hardest. In the almost 6 weeks this streak has lasted, good days have been few and far between. Despite my efforts, brain fog still remains strong and this cognitive impairment still very much lingers. My hope and confidence has been kind of waning as of late, and today I almost reached a breaking point.

    I heard those all too familiar voices in my head trying to convince me to relapse. All the "why not" and "might as well" stances. Now I haven't fantasized since the very beginning of this streak, since the first 5 days. I've come across some triggers, but since the first week, abstaining hasn't been extremely hard. But along with the doubts come the thoughts. And I fought them off at first, but for a time, I started to entertain those mental images somewhat. Enough for me to sprout a few erections and for that warm sexual feeling to fill my chest. It didn't last for a crazy amount of time, it was on and off early this morning. But regardless, I did not PMO. I'm not considering this a relapse nor a reset, as when I've reached these near-breaking points in the past, I did. But I held strong and stuck to my guns.

    Now I know some valuable healing has taken place so far on this streak, hence the withdrawal symptoms and what not, but what I'm wondering is, can entertaining those sexual thoughts be comparable to edging? Where you still feel aroused but you don't finish? Or are these two things not at all alike?
     
    OntoANewLife, Mar 25, 2019
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  2. Mar 25, 2019 #2
    Invictvs

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    That's a tough one. Fantasizing is generally normal! But for sex/porn addicts like us I'd say its better to try to push aside those thoughts and think of something else. That's especially if its particularly fetishistic or "odd" fantasies. My first time quitting I constantly put a big "no" voice in my head to push aside fantasies that would pop up if I was laying around and bored. I noticed that if I didn't that daydreaming could get out of control and lead quickly to relapsing. If I caught myself I'd get up and literally walk up to the end of my street and back to my house.
     
    Invictvs, Mar 25, 2019
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  3. Mar 25, 2019 #3
    Vir Rex

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    In my experience, fantasizing will almost always lead to edging and then MO so you need to train your mind not to think of such things. Mental conditioning, such as prayer and consuming modest entertainment, will remove triggers that make you think about fantasizing. Create a new life for yourself where you don't have to rely on fantasizing to get through the day.
     
    Vir Rex, Mar 25, 2019
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