I Can't Quit and Depression

Hello there

I believe, that people are addicted because they are lacking something essencial in their live (love, relationship, life direction, faith etc). I dont know your life but Ill try to give some suggestion that can maybe help.

You said that you cant be without P even one day... Try to fill your day with some outdoor activities that you can enjoy (deeply in your mind you know, you can enjoy a lot of stuff). Go for a walk, read book in a park, exercise, go to the cinema/theatre, talk to friends/family (if you have), go to the church - even though youre not a believer. Important thing! Be focused on NOW, dont let yourselve distract by anything else - this is hard I know.

Do you remember when you were a small kid. You were dreaming about something you would like to become, Im sure of it . Try to remember what was your dream and think about it and then try to do something little towards this dream - it can be the smallest step in the universe. U wanted to be an astronaut - go watch some documentary.

Another stuff i can recommend, and this science proven stuff, is: healthy diet, doing sports, breathing exercises, cold shovers. You can also find therapist that can help (dont have any experience with this)

And last thing I HAVE to say because im Christian. Pray to God, read bible - try to open at some random page and read / think about it, go to the church and listen to the preach of priest and again, think about it. God accepts everyone who comes to him

In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

 

Hey, @Gvn2Fly I think, I am eligible to answer this. So, I was full on into Porn. Hard-core, and other genres. I would watch it irrespective of the time of day it is by then. I would just keep watching from one thing to another. I have read what most of the people here on NoFap have said, written and talked to about. So, it was all good, but not enough for me to get me stay out of watching porn. So, I went in and read another one, another one, and so on, until it became boring enough for me to watch Porn again. After watching porn and relapsing, I would feel so bad, and feel so disturbed, that I would just think of starting afresh. Now, I would again, come back here, Read some stuff, then eventually get bored after a while, and then relapse again. Goddammit, I was so badly stuck in this cycle, that I had forgotten an important thing, I just forgot why I came here, to NoFap. I had come here to quit my addiction, plant new good values or practices in place of the time I used to watch porn, so I just reminded myself what my objective was in the first place. Secodly I had experienced the side-effects of watching Porn in my daily-life during the time when I realised what my Objective was. I was just viewing all Women, I see in my everyday life as sex-objects, and it's just not good, because you value some people a lot, and when you get to fantasise sexually (induced by pornography) about them, this is seriously so bad. So, I had these Visible symptoms of what Pornography had caused me, which was nothing rather than a reason for completing my objective. So, I had my objective clear, in front of me, and I had the perfect reason to acheive my objective.
Now, that I had both of them,I started putting in efforts to acheive my objective. It sure was hard, but thinking about what it does to you, and what it would do to you as soon as you surrender to it again, makes it less tougher.

Think about all the benefits that you get when you stay away from this. Mostly stop thinking about porn, so indeed for that to happen, your mind should have been diverted to something else. Do something productive during then, Take out the weed and plan a seed in it's place. Never uproot a stronger weed and plant a weaker weed in it's place. So, just try to stay occupied.

Then, I joined in Challenges here, at NoFap, which is where your peers help you a lot in your recovery process. The Kind of challenges where you face off each other so as to break through your shells due to the positively influencing Competitiveness.

Any addiction can be overcome, it's just about our mentality. We don't always try, but we only try trying. That's why we almost kind of end up unsuccessful. Nothing is worth Suicidal thoughts, remember, nothing. We all beleive in you. We all of us in here, hope you would break out of this deadly cycle.
GOOD LUCK, CHEERS...

 

I have been relapsing almost every day for a few years now.
I know, it's crazy to think that it's an almost daily thing.
I realize that my porn addiction is anxiety and loneliness-driven.
I strongly desire to have a girlfriend. To be more social and outgoing.
But most days I despair and turn to pornography as my "way out".
I also have Internet addiction (social media, YouTube, Netflix)...spend endless hours on the internet.
My anxiety and addiction have worsened since I moved to Miami, an extrovertive city with a lot of attractive women.
Any advice is much appreciated.
Wishing everyone the best of luck.

 

Hey man
If you don't fap you won't die
If you don't watch porn you won't die
It's just a nervus itch.

 

Try read bramacharya too. Good book

 

No, it's just not. I did it too, for really a long time. I think I am well behind all that now. You might think that I have made it only 11 days so far, but am saying that I have got over it, well actually it's all about the determination that you have. If you have got the will power to do it, you surely will succeed and in order for you to feel that will power and use it to your strengths, you must be having some confidence in yourself. So, ultimately start now. Just start staying away from it, right away. Don't wait for the moment, just start and keep going. Do smaller stints like, make it one day without Porn, and keep doing it for a week or two, you will surely feel the difference, and that difference would inspire you and make you aspire to come away from all that mess. Now, you might fail sometimes, don't let that failure break you, let it make you. Learn from those failures, like learning "what caused you to watch it again ?". Then go for some longer stints like a week off. Listen, it might sound crazy but, we all know you can do it, just the way we all are doing it, and join some challenges here, they really are so much helpful. Start doing it now. Good luck, CHEERS...

Everyone, almost everyone has that. You can try going offline for a day, just to see what all you miss out on, when you are always online, but it's up to you ultimately, if you are not killing time by watching it, and rather have it all planned to be watched after your work is done, it's all fine. If not, start staying away. Don't just quit the internet, limit your time on the internet. It might help you a lot, by making you stay away from potential triggers as well..

So, there are a lot of women-extroverts in there. You shouldn't seem worried, you should be happy. Think of all the people you could make friends with, think of all the ones you can date along, think of all the good things that happen.
You should not let it worsen your addiction. Just go out, try talking to them and stay well off from this Porn-addiction.

You will surely come out of this addiction, I know you will. Come out to the top. Come out to the summit, and see the world. Good Luck,

 

God is good

 

Your honesty is refreshing.
I really can relate to you as I have wrestled with depression and suicide, even been hospitalized before. I relapsed twice today and feel horrible but in the heat of the moment, it’s all I want; it’s such a big confliction. You are stuck in a rut and so am I.
I can tell you from personal experience that I use porn to fill certain needs in my life. I started fapping at 4 years old, back then I did it just for the pleasure/high that it gave. Later in my life I was using it to de-stress and fulfill a void; I don’t have luck with women.
Porn is so much easier to get than a real woman, that’s why so many guys do it. Now my porn habit is literally about getting high, that next hit, looking for that new girl or thing. Just like a heroine addict looking for the next hit.
But I’m never gonna give up beating this thing and neither should you.
Forward is forward no matter the pace.

 

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