Two weeks without PMO: HOLY $#@!

Great job, keep us updated.

 

First off.. I don't recommend just hooking up with some girl, but the ABSOLUTE LAST THING you should do is fap beforehand!! Don't give in. Even if you last ten seconds the first time, you will now be able to go for hours because you will function like superman! But I advocate for abstinence until marriage. I think it is about love with a person, and a real relationship can not be influenced by the endorphins that sex causes. Why girls are "clingy" after you hook up. Sex is designed for marriage.

 

Werd,

I know you are down about relapsing, but try to focus on the positive. Continue to build on the progress you've made. I often hear people say something like...to make it a year you first have to make it a month or in weight lifting terms...to lift 250 lbs you first have to lift 200 lbs. Best of luck!

 

Well done mate, two weeks is awesome for someone been addicted for such a long time! Ill follow the thread so keep us updated mate. Dont fap beforehand btw, youll just ruin the sex, of you last ten seconds, be happy.. I never finish with my girlfriend and its definetely much worse, atleast she'll know you're satisfied with her You just have to laugh it off and enjoy it really.

Keep it up Werd

 

Great to see your story, Werd. Do let us know as you move from success to success. Stay strong and vigilant.

You may find this useful along your nofap journey:
http://www.nofap.com/forum/showthread.php?23228-Using-neuroscience-tips-in-NoFap/page22
Cheers!

 

This man is absolutely right until here. I have had a few relationships and the sex is never good if you fap beforehand. The American Pie relaxing thing is total BS. You will NOT Prematurely Ejaculate.
In fact, if u're hard, she'll get turned on too. Just wear jeans, so she cant see it, but feel it if you guys get into foreplay.
If you fap an hour before, you might lose motivation to have sex, and won't be able to go in hard, which will make for bad sex for her, and she will then thing you were bad in bed.
So go hard, even if u last for 10 seconds, those will be the best 10 seconds of your life and hers.

Btw, 2 weeks is amazing. The max i've been able to do in the last 1.5 years (ever since I started tracking this) is 3 weeks.
It can become painful and you become restless, but there is a right way to expend this energy: work + workout + go out and hunt chics, I mean.

 

Yeah you might last only ten seconds the FIRST time... The second will be better if you don't fap.. But if you fap there will be ONLY one time and it wont be as good. You need to remember that you can use you're whole body and mind and emotions to satisfy a woman... Sex isn't all about the 'D'. Lead her, entice her, talk with her, connect with her.... Talk to her about your worry... It probably will turn her on that you trust her and are vulnerable with her

 

Congrats on the lady. As for the need to 'vent the spigot' I think that's a control thing that will develop over time. Right now this is pretty new and you're not using to having to rein in the desire.

From my own experience I can say the more often you rein it in, the more used to it you'll be. Its a muscle in your brain. I still get periods of intense arrousal occasionally (usually stress induced though).

My gut feeling is you'll have more control, not less when you get with a girl. Anyway good luck, God bless!

 

The counter argument to that is that if you don't fap before getting "action", you'll be able to pop twice when the action actually happens, or so I've heard.

That said, maybe you should go through a 90 day reboot before looking for some "action". Just to make sure you've really healed properly.

 

Damn right. Couldn't have said it better.

 

Great job bro

 

keep it up!