Need advice on getting help from girlfriend

My wife and I used a monitoring app like what you are talking about, for about 6 months. It worked well for us as a tool. For me, I knew it was there and it was another reminder to stay focused. For her it was a bit of comfort for a time. It can be of help for some and is something for both people.

 

She is manipulating you. That is exactly what happens, but in kind words. Do not give her nothing of your personal space, even the addiction. That way she will respect you for longer. Let me guess? You feel in debt. You think she is supportive. Maybe she is. Maybe you found a great treasure. Be on alert 24/7. Shit is suspicious.

 

Welcome! Great that you decided to do something about your addiction. With two diverging views given above, I can only encourage you to ask yourself what YOU want. What do you want to achieve? How should life be afterwards? How much do you want to involve your GF and how much is she willing to be involved? As with everything in life there’s no “one size fits all” approach.
I had long discussions with my wife and she is aware of everything, but she is not the one controlling computers or phones. That is me installing it myself, as I want to have the safeguards to counter my first impulse, but otherwise I consider this my personal fight. My wife does not want to get involved to that extend and for me it is sufficient to know she is there to support me whenever I need her. However, as said, every person and every relationship is different. Your GF will not be able to fight the addiction in your place, she can only help you, which is already a daunting task in itself. Ask yourself what you feel most comfortable with.

 

Even the longest journey starts with the first step - and you just made it. Focus on the successes you already achieved: you realized you have a problem with P, you talked with your GF about it, you came up with a first safeguard in form of the software and after deliberation and some diverging views here you still feel comfortable with your plan and are sticking with it. Always remember those achievements, it will help you in those moments when it will get difficult to stay on course.