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Suggestion: Stop edging. Cut out the P. After all, most of us are trying to recover from the effects of overconsumption of Porn. If you edge or look at P, you'll need the O. It's that simple.

 

That's right, p... is really bad, it sticks to mind for a long time. Strange enough I remember some p movies I watched 15 or even 19 years ago. If we keep watching it will lead as to m and to wrong thinking. I watched some p too today and m because I was very angry about some problems I have in life, but if I don't control that, it will mess up my life for a very long time. So, the best way to stop this is: 1 - put a filter on your computer and give the password to your girlfriend, or your friend and tell them not to tell you what the password is even if you ask them to when you are tempted. 2 - when you feel tempted to watch p and m make a plan on how you can run away from all that and do something useful. I am still learning how to practice what I wrote here myself. It's not easy, but in the end it will be worth it. Also find an accountability partner. I still have to find mine though! People come on this website and say they need an AP, but strange enough nobody is available! Good luck man...

 

No edging. No touching yourself to arouse yourself. No touching yourself if you are already aroused.

Having sex during your reboot will mean you have to know how to deal with the chaser effect. Make plans for after you have sex. Make a plan to avoid touching yourself. Make a plan to focus on something productive to keep yourself busy.

This is not easy but it is necessary that you are honest with yourself.

If you have been edging then you certainly not have experienced the true benefits of no PMO - maybe you could use that as motivation!

 

Yeah, no edging, no P. If you start down that path you're likely to relapse. Better to visit this forum or get on with your day, get out of the house, or find some activity to occupy your mind.

 

Don't fool yourself, be honest. If you have an addiction to porn then watching it and edging as you did in your period before relapse is not recovery. Good luck and I suggest you plan out your next phase so you're more clear on your goals and bottom lines.

 

Last night I had a wet dream and I'm wondering if I should reset my counter? Otherwise I have not watched porn or masturbated in 39 days. Really proud of myself. It feels so good to make it this far in.

 

If you didn't BRING yourself to it by edging, then a wet dream is neither P, nor M, nor (a real) O.

My $0.02

 

Okay thanks. I figured that was the case but I wasn't sure if it counted as a reboot. I'm guessing it happened because I'm so backed up after 39 days.

 

More often than not, if you need to ask if it is a reboot - it is. However, in this case... well, it is your subconscious, so you can't really be "blamed".

Listen to your mind and body. It usually knows when you have broken your cycle.

 

Makes total sense to me.

 

Have you implemented any of the suggestions?