Protecting Children from Porn

I was thinking about that too because I started at that age. I have a wife and we would like to have kids in a few years.

Of course, all of that is far but there will be a moment where we'll have to educate them on this subject.

I believe that around the same age we started ourselves watching it, they should know about the harm it can do. At the same time, if we talk about it, it will make the kids curious and would might want to try. Unfortunately because of that, would it be a good way to prevent by not allowing them to have a personal computer until a later age? 16 perhaps? But then again, everybody has a phone, and they will definitely have phones so they can be reached or for emergencies. Also, they will have friends that will have computers and who knows maybe their friends are going to show them porn if they dontd have access at home.

There will always be a way to access porn and I don't know if we can do something about it Besides talking to the kids about it at an earlier age.

 

That gives me ideas. If the are active in other areas (sports, arts, etc..), that does keep them away from the computer longer. It makes sense
I'm only afraid of blocking websites is because they won't understand why it's blocked. What if they figure out how to bypass the blocker? I'm basing this on myself when I was a kid . I was good with computers and I managed a lot of things... Kids are curious and they will figure out a way. Don't forget that they have friends that can help.

Edit: I would like the best for my future kids and I wouldn't like them to go through the mess I've been through with porn.

 

The first thing I would do is to install K9 on their system, it's a child protection software. The next thing would be to tell them about all the negative repercussions of porn. The DSM-V even mentions pornography as an addiction. If they have a phone, you can setup restrictions on it.

 

Do you think it's good telling them that there is lots of "dangerous content" with negative repercussions or talk to them about porn directly?

 

Well yes, I think it's better to just tell them that. Kids are very inquisitive.

 

I think you're on the right path here. Unfortunately we are already a long way down a slippery slope of kids being addicted to smartphones and the internet, whether they do other activities or not. It's not just porn, it's social media and the internet in general. It's like the world is presented to us via pictures and video and we never get to experience the reality. It's all a fantasy. And that leads to an erosion of confidence and the development of a largely negative mind which is the basis of a lot of our problems today. I'm truly starting to believe the Internet has become more of a hindrance than a help. I'm truly starting to believe we would be better off without it. So I guess my answer to this question is to get rid of the Internet.

 

The worry is the mainstream media and doctors don't seem to be anywhere near caught up with how dangerous high speed internet pornography and artificial sexual stimulation is.

Some men are less prone to addiction to pornography than other men. Some men watch it very occasionally, but still have a lot of sexual experiences with real women. These men seem to avoid most of the negative effects of high speed internet pornography. However some men are more prone to addiction to pornography, masturbating to it for years, having little or no real sexual experience, PMO binging to high speed internet pornography for years and completely wiring their brains to high speed internet pornography. Then only realising years later when they have porn induced erectile dysfunction and mental health problems that porn might actually be harmful. But the only way they discover it is harmful is online, as the mainstream don't have a clue and no one is warning these men that pornography is harmful.

It's terrifying this is happening. But what is even more terrifying is how far behind the mainstream are with this. Guys like Gary Wilson from YBOP, Noah Church and Gabe Deem know exactly how it is.

Remember this has only been a problem since 2006, so that isn't that long, and doctors in medical school haven't been taught a thing about any of this. I would like to think it will be taught to doctors in the future though.

 

I think it's the YBOP book where Gary Wilson compares the current state to how smoking was years ago. The mainstream haven't caught up to the dangers of it yet and a lot of people deny it's harmless, just like the tobacco companies did with smoking. I think one of the quotes he references is someone saying years ago about smoking "If the smoke so harmful, why haven't we all got lung cancer?" It's ironic because one of the main porn sites has a kind of 'sexologist' Q&A thing tucked away on it and one guy wrote to it saying, basically, "I feel like I masturbate too much" and the 'sexologist' on the porn website advised him to go and find other hobbies to take his mind off masturbation. I looked at that during a relapse so you don't have to.

 

break the taboo .. just i think what the kids need to taught more is the effects .. i was 14 yrs old when i first realised there is porn... but its not easy for kids nowadays.. the kids will know about stuff bcoz its erywhere so just teach them the side effects ... my family avoids the whole topic of sex so i never understood the ill effects of masturbating till recent times. there is a taboo regarding the talk.. we all say its bad but.. we dont know how bad.. what really is bad.. i wish somebody told this to me earlier .. one day me getting curious and searched its ill effects but that took me 4 years to do.. awareness is important .. if porn is everywhere .. its ill effects should be told everywhere too

 

I go with what Gary Wilson from YBOP says, and guys like Noah church, I go with what they say. They say Masturbation was causing next to no issues before high speed internet came along, and I believe that.

But I think if you have brain changes from years of PMO then yes masturbation on it's own does seem to slow down the recovery

 

Most of us started when we were young, teenagers and that's the moment of our lives where we are most influenced in general. We don't realize it's bad until we mature and understand the negative effects. The moment we realize, we are already way down the slope and it's harder to cure the addiction.

 

Educate.
Kids need to know porn poses danger, that will not stop them, but when they face problems, they can say - oh maybe its this porn I am watching that causes me these issues.
The problem is that kids cant make that judgement, they are just not informed.