My benefits fading away (from day 11)

While the final discernment regarding what's happening here is always yours, @EDX, the first thing that came up for me while reading your question was this: It seems to me this might be the product of being human. We have good days. We have bad days. We have in-between days. This is just how it goes for all of us. As an addict, I've worked hard to cover this variability up with acting out. As a recovering addict, a recurring challenge involves accepting this is how life is and carrying on.

For what it's worth...

 

Are you having regular actual sex in the meantime??

Unless you're having regular actual sex, IMO what we call "flatline" is simply just one's "contention" (for lack of a better word) with the nature of "not receiving sexual gratification". Not saying people shouldn't receive sexual gratification, but it should be via actual sex not 'fap/PMO.

In other words, NoFap is simply the natural thing that happens when you don't receive regular and/or actual sex, and "flatline" is what happens when you.....well, (also) for lack of a better word, "lose respect" for this completely natural phenomenon.

A funny analogy might be to think of it as a "comedy roast" ---> "flatline" is when the guy in the hotseat can no longer well or "gracefully" (also for lack of a better word!) take/accept the presented quips. When this happens NoFap users might sometimes either "relapse" (to relieve the sexual frustration) or "flatline" (forcibly or somehow otherwise "bury/suppress" anything libido-related that's creating such tension in the first place). Both actions (not to sound too harsh!!! but...) are IMO a complete disrespect for how nature is supposed to work (and what sexual frustration is supposed to compel one to do ----> have actual sex!)

 

I'd say the latter but I don't consider having sex a "relapse" of any sort --- men and women are meant to seek and have sex with each another.

"Relapse" is when people go back to PMO.

 

the real benefits will only kick in when you got to day 90+

 

I can tell you from my own experience that it's a flatline.
I went through the same thing when I was on day 12-13 and now, on day 21, I feel that I'm back on the track!

 

nice job brother!