A Message to the World (8 months clean)

Are you still going strong my friend?

 

Thanks for sharing and pouring your heart out. I’ve made it 70 days once and felt the results. I’m back to surpass that and free my life. What you say is the truth. Thanks for the inspiration.

 

Fantastic post sir. The way in which you have encaptured the exact essence of PMO addiction and put it down into words is brilliant and makes your post so relatable to myself and I'm sure it will resonate with others on this forum too. Seriously, well done on getting to where you are. I'm elated for you.

Reading your post has helped me a lot. I feel like it's what I've needed to read. I'm currently on day 40 of my second streak of abstinence. My last attempt was around 425 days, and for a while I thought I'd beaten this addiction. But then one day I let my urges take hold again, telling myself 'just one time, get it out of your system' and that was well over two years ago and now I'm back at rock bottom. Anxiety, depression, ED, a lack of drive and desire, no motivation, I've stopped going to the gym and my relationship is not in the best place.

I've been thinking a lot recently about my 425 day streak and wondering why I relapsed and whether I actually recovered fully at all. You see, the thing is, the first time around I quit simply to cure my ED as my relationship was very new and my girlfriend supported me and obviously we were a little younger and excited to be with each other in the 'honeymoon phase' of our relationship, so a lot of the emphasis on my recovery was focussed solely on my ED recovering. It did, for a while, but then towards the end of my streak I began to get episodes of ED again. And I noticed my anxiety, depression, overthinking etc. My girlfriend and I were a little further into our relationship and so weren't having quite as many 'relations' shall we say as we previously had been. So yeah, I've been thinking about that a lot recently and something clicked not long ago.

I realised that although I had quit P and M, I had never fully altered my relationship with sex or the way I viewed it. Sure, I'd had a few times where we'd 'made love' and I'd felt a connection akin to which you've described in your original post. All of the different senses, enjoying the foreplay, taking your time and really just loving every inch of your partner. But then it got to a point where we were having so much 'fun', that I slowly but surely just began to associate sex with ejaculation. And thats the killer. That's the reason I relapsed. I'm sure of it. Something in my brain clearly wasn't ready, or hadn't fully recovered, and so I fell right back into the hole.

So as I say, I'm now on day 40. I'm trying to remember the timeline from last time, and how I should be feeling, and how long off before my ED fixes itself so I can stop making up excuses for not being able to 'perform', and that's all probably just slowing me down. But I want to make more changes, and hopefully I will do. I want to feel like 'the man' again.

Best of luck on the rest of your journey my man. Apologies for the long response, but your post really encapsulated exactly how I've been feeling and I just felt like I needed to share. Thanks

 

I'm guilty of watching 50+ success story videos on YouTube (most don't seem genuine), and reading hundreds of success stories on Reddit/NoFap. They begin to lose their impact the more one reads unfortunately. I stumbled across yours about a week ago, and it stuck. I somehow relate to you the most and bookmarked your post. My NoFap counter just hit 7 days while typing this and I'm feeling great. I'm almost through No More Mr. Nice Guy, which has been a good kick in the balls that I needed haha. I'm a 25yo guy that was blessed with good looks and intellect, with a fairly successful career (could be better). This compulsive PMO has me completely hamstrung in developing my character and drive, however. The two forces that really matter in living a good life. I know you're probably on to bigger and better things, but i urge you to make more posts on here, and post your story on Reddit Nofap. Your writing is eloquent and can touch many people in an impactful way.

Best regards

 

Thank you very much, for keeping my motivation for the long run. Awesome post. I will try to add your suggestions into my life. I tried selfhelp books before they are awesome AF.

 

@Aviator24 One of the best posts I have read on here in a minute. I love the line where you realized everyone has this problem, that’s exactly what I realized when I found this movement. You didn’t talk about being grounded much. I was wondering if becoming/staying grounded became easier for u on this streak? Thanks for the post my dude, we need more success stories in this formation.

 

Another good inspiring post thank you

 

Very inspiring brother!
I have read articles on PE. How there are so many men who are having this problem. First I was thinking that this is caused mostly by PMO. Have you seen improvement here by abstaining from PMO?
I plan to get married (after getting out of the vicious cycle), and I am worried about PE. And how the girl will get frustrated.
I hope you can enlighten me on this.
Thank you once again for your motivational thread.

 

Wow is all I can say.

I can never read this enough. I have a lot of similar experiences.

I have found joy in running, reading and I have a lot sharper focus too.

I will read your post again and and again

 

Congratulations on 5 months! I just read the whole post it was very inspiring. And you are a very good writer. Not once did I get bored reading this.

 

I cried internally while reading this. I was just going to relapse today or tomorrow, but you did pit big fight inside. Thank you like hell lot. Lets enjoy the real world.