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First time ive had sex in over a month :(

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Jay77, Apr 10, 2019.

  1. Jay77

    Jay77 Fapstronaut

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    Ok, I have been dating someone awhile now and decided to have sex I told her about nofap and said I have PIED.

    One night I felt comfortable and we attempted to have sex. My PIED was gone. The good news stops there.

    I lasted roughly about 6-8 minutes so PE is still very much a thing.

    After we had sex we went to bed, an i had the worst restless legs, which is a sign of low dopamine.

    This morning I feel like shit energy wise, probably the RLS but i need to ask people for advice....

    Should I discontinue sex for awhile my PIED seemed gone but the restless legs is a hall mark sign of low dopamine which may need to be repleted which abstinence.

    As for the PE i will work on my keegle exercises.

    Any thoughts greatly appreciated.
     
  2. over50

    over50 Fapstronaut

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    I have a similar experience, only sex lasted for 1 Minute or less (that's what is considered PE). 6-8 Minutes is more than average.
     
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  3. SolaireofAstora

    SolaireofAstora Fapstronaut

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    Lol, if i last 6 minutes i would be thrilled.

    Some guys are physically strong, others are more fragile.
    Some guys last longer in bed, others do not.
    Despite my PIED, im pretty sure i shouldnt expect i will become those guys that last 3 hours and do some tantra shit.
     
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  4. Fallensoldier1

    Fallensoldier1 Fapstronaut

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    You think 6-8 minutes is PE?? Dude, no.

    PE is definitely like around the 1-2 minute mark or even less, like a few seconds, THATS PE.

    I think 6-8 minutes is really great. That’s definitely average. Porn has make you think you have to last 30 minutes or more.

    Sure you may want to last longer than 6-8 minutes and maybe that is too short for you. And maybe the more often you guys do it, you can last longer. But just know that I wish I could last 6-8 minutes with my wife right now. Heck I would love to have a good solid 3-4 minutes of penetration.
     
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  5. Fallensoldier1

    Fallensoldier1 Fapstronaut

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    Premature Ejaculation. Basically it’s if you finish before you or your partner wants, and if you can’t control your ejaculation.

    My average before stopping PMO was probably 2-3 minutes. But we could go again and it would be much better. While on nofap sometimes it’s been so bad as immediately upon contact.

    Porn basically wires us to orgasm very fast. So I’m pretty messed up in my head sexually and it’s taking me much longer to heal.

    It also very often is usually anxiety induced. But there are certain health problems that can cause it.
     
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  6. Mithradates

    Mithradates Fapstronaut

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    Dude 6-8 minutes is fine. Next time just pace yourself a bit better and spend more time warming her up and doing other things for her. Read Cupid's Poison Arrow, its a book about Karezza.
     
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  7. JesusStrength

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  8. JesusStrength

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    Question 1: did you feel horny enough to have sex?
    Question 2: after sex why didn't you go for round 2?
     

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