Help needed please!

Sounds like chaser effect. But there could be more to it. Hard to know without more details. Are you in relationships with these people? Do you have any opportunity for community. Sex is one of the most vulnerable/intimate things we can do. If you are isolated right afterwards i could see that being depressing. Your body may not know what do with those chemicals.

 

Orgasm hangover!

https://www.reuniting.info/node/7603

 

Ya dude! Glad i can be of help. Keep engaging with these difficult things and you will make the changes you desire in your life.

At the top of the screen there is a link to the glossary of commonly used terms on nofap. Check it out.

https://www.nofap.com/glossary

Here is the definition for chaser effect

• Chaser Effect: The super-charged desire to masturbate that sometimes hits 1-3 days after sexual acts. Especially powerful early on in a reboot

Ok so possibly not chaser effect by this definition. But it is helpful to know what your normal feelings will be and plan accordingly. Knowing is half that battle

 

How is the sex itself? Loving? Fulfilling? Is there a deep connection? When I have relapsed and Med to P I feel shitty afterwards, because I have made a bad decision and had a lonely, empty experience. It is possible for partnered sex to feel lonely and empty if there is no trye connection. You may also feel guilty if you are using her in the way that you used P. One last possibility is that you are overwhelmed by the prospect of a long wait for another similar experience if the sex you have is infrequent.

Going back to the possibility that the sex is not enotionally connected or fulfilling: you mention that you consider her to be your partner. Is this how she feels about you? Are you official? Are you committed? Is the negative emotion just you worrying about these things?

A lover is not just a sexual partner, and we have emotional needs that are met in loving relationships and loving sexual experiences. If the sex you are having feels lonely or empty, then considet whether you can better connect with your partner.

If none of the above theories sound like they fit, then just kbow that early in your reboot your body chemistry is undergoing guge changes due to the changes in your sexual behaviours. It will take a while for your dopamine receptors and hormone balances to find a new, healthier equilibrium. This could also be behind the drop in mood after sex and orgasm.

The good news is that you are feeling these emotions, not numbing or dulling them by distracting yourself with PMO.

Keep at it.

 

That is exactly what i was saying