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Thinking About Girls...

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by KingRecover17, Mar 9, 2015.

  1. Mar 9, 2015 #1
    KingRecover17

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    I swear to you having gone on this 40 Day journey without PMO has been made me start to fantasize about having a girlfriend in the near future. On a subconscious level I think I want a girlfriend so that It will make up for all of the years that I had lost with me dealing with Porn. But for the most part I want a girlfriend for a good reasons, one reason is so have someone to share my life with and to have someone who I can build a great relationship with. Over the years I always wanted a girlfriend just for the sex, but I'm starting feel that sex isn't as important, it's more about her character and substance than what she can do in the bed, it's more to girls than sex. But Porn condition my mind to think that women are only good for sex and nothing else, which isn't true it all. But anyway that's how I have been feeling lately during this journey. Peace
     
    KingRecover17, Mar 9, 2015
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  2. Mar 9, 2015 #2
    Highlander

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    If that's you think about girls, you deserve one!;)
     
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  3. Mar 9, 2015 #3
    KingRecover17

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    Hell yea after my suffering I deserve one man lolol
     
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  4. Mar 9, 2015 #4
    Highlander

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    sorry, I didn't understand lol
     
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  5. Mar 9, 2015 #5
    KingRecover17

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    What you mean???
     
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  6. Mar 9, 2015 #6
    Highlander

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    I mean, you are a nice guy, you are trying to become a better person. You have a balanced view of what a healthy relationship is, so I think you will get what you want.
     
    Highlander, Mar 9, 2015
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  7. Mar 9, 2015 #7
    suyash_4376

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    I have been having same thoughts. But, having a gf means sharing everything, and that includes your problems with porn addiction. So, your gf may get hurt emotionally. I would suggest that if you believe you have recovered, then only you have a gf.
     
    suyash_4376, Mar 9, 2015
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  8. Mar 10, 2015 #8
    Chris1052

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    I feel ya man. I have always had desires and fantasies about having a girlfriend, even when I was deeply engrossed in PMO. It is easier for me too look at it in a not purely sexual perspective now though. I also feel like I'm happier with myself and not so desperate for a girl since I have quit PMO. It does come and go though. Some days it's all I can think about, and others I'm okay single for now. When I get interested in a girl I really have to ask myself why. Why do I have an interest in this girl, is it purely sexual? Or is it because I see a trait in her that I admire, is she someone I think I could have a good relationship with. Sex will really skew my thinking in these areas.
     
    Chris1052, Mar 10, 2015
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