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Are sex scenes on tv the same as porn?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Guy Muun, Mar 14, 2018.

  1. Guy Muun

    Guy Muun Fapstronaut

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    i have been watching a show called dexter it’s like game of thrones in which there is sometimes a naked woman and sex scenes. Will watching this have the same negative impact as watching porn?
     
  2. That really varies from person to person. For me, it depends on the specifics of the sex scene. I can watch hardcore porn and it will have no effect on me, or get me into PMO immediately. It depends on what the details are. I practice yoga and have no problems with the women who are there, but for others, it's a dangerous place.

    Essentially, think about where your mind goes and what your body is telling you when you see those scenes. Ask yourself: Is what I am looking at helping, or hurting, my recovery efforts? If it's hurting - if you are getting turned on by it - then IMHO it's just as bad. It may not be as intense, but it's not good for you.
     
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  3. Gotham Outlaw

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    I've never had a problem with sex scenes in shows like that. If it effects you then take a break from it. It really varies from person to person.
     
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  4. Hufflekid

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    Nah. I mean, the goal here isn't to avoid sexual images in every form. It's just not realistic. Just try not to fantasize while you're watching the show and usually those scenes end pretty quickly.
     
  5. sajiDsaifi

    sajiDsaifi New Fapstronaut

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    yes because sexy scens of tv shows stumilate the addict person
     
  6. I personally don't think so no. So long as you are not anticipating it or digging for it and also masturbating to it you are gonna be fine. I have watched many a series over my reboot and am recovering fine albeit long.
     
  7. Yes it can affect your recovering brain in the early reboot stage. Sexual scenes can trigger wet dreams and your brain may interpret that as porn. That's if your are a recovering addict, usually in early stage.
     
  8. Peter808

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    My 2 cents. I think the problem is more what you are going to do with those visuals than just seeing them. If all you want to do after seeing them is go on and masturbate, then you might want to avoid. You can enjoy the visuals - for what they are, and say "NO THANK YOU" to your brain that want to push this further. Unless to commit to not watch TV, not go online and not read any magazines, it'll be hard to avoid those triggers.

    My point is - I think there is a difference between you actively looking for a dopamine fix and being presented some sexy content that will hopefully have a controlled effect with being able to discard an effect or deal with a potential trigger.

    In my previous attempts I noticed I was a some point able to even watch porn where there was no effect at all! It's a "no thank you" technique that came pretty useful. Like an alcoholic that is presented a glass of alcohol. You can drink it or be able to say no and pass. I think if you develop the ability to say no and pass then you're on the right path.

    As a personal note; I relapsed oh so many times not because of surprise triggers but because me voluntarily wanting to PMO. Dumb me...
     
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  9. BecomeMaster

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    Lol that's my solution. People act like it's all complicated and the world's gonna end if they stop watching this show or that show, etc. My simple question I ask myself all the time is "Will this matter on my deathbed? Will this matter at the end of time?" This helps sort out the significance and value of things in my life. I don't play much videogames anymore and I am loving it. I can actually focus on building up knowledge for my skills and my dream career. I don't use social media much, etc. Videogames, TV, and the internet is human society's poison for itself, probably just as bad as porn usage if they become addicting.

    I partially agree with @Peter808 's answer. My answer would be YES, but if it's a popup and you are well into your streak then it would be a piece of cake to forget about the popup. But if you watch shows like these knowing that they have these scenes, you probably would use it as porn and relapse.
     
  10. Peter808

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    @BecomeMaster , I do agree with you. In the last 18 months I did let go of so many shows in my playlist and the few I kept, are getting close to an end (Walking dead, GoT mainly). I don't want to replace them as I do want to find more productive stuff to do. So agreed that TV is a very unproductive way to kill time.

    And for the OP, it all depends where you are on your journey. You know yourself and how you react to those stimuli. If you want to go masturbate every time you see a pair of boobs on TV, then get rid of your shows and do something else. Read books instead. Let your brain do the fantasy work instead of consuming it all mashed up for you. If you managed to build your tolerance a little bit and feel more under control, just welcome the images, and if your brain starts acting up then just say "no thank you". We are still guys and of course we will get aroused by something sexy. And it's totally normal! The main thing is how YOU will be reacting after this that matters. Of course if you are watching GoT with family or with GF you won't take out your tablet and start watching porn on the spot. Some time will pass before you want to do that.

    My GF always says to me - we do what we tell ourselves we will do. That is so simple and yet so true. If you tell yourself: "'oh man that was friggin sexy I can't resist and all I want to do is Fap to porn", that's what you'll do and believe me, I was there not so long ago... Instead, why not go: "wow, that scene is sexy and I feel aroused, but I won't use porn but instead have wonderful sex with my girlfriend later instead". Or if you do some kind of hard mode reboot go: "that scene was sexy. I feel aroused. Let's go for a walk or meditate after the show so I can stick to my goal".

    We do what we tell our brain to do. We are what we tell our brain we are. It is important to have positive goals in life. Talk to yourself in positive ways. Go "I want this..." instead of "I don't want this...".
     
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