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Shouldn't I look at women?????

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by PMO addict1, Apr 25, 2019.

  1. PMO addict1

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    On day 47 --- Now my problem is not porn .... but ...every attractive girl I see on road, shops,T.V even myrelatives.. I objectify them as sex objects... I lust over their faces....
    THE QUESTION IS
    1-will It get better with longer Nofap Streak??

    2- should I not look at any women during reboot period.?..

    Because I know I cant look them confidently I am gonna lust over them.. is not looking at any hot women for a certain time good ??And this objectifacation thing ever go away ??
     
  2. Infinite spirit

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    I will be honest with you. It's not about nofap or porn anymore. You have some serious obsession with women and sex. I suggest you go visit a therapist . Also try dating as soon as possible ..you are 27 yo.you should have kids by now!.
     
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  3. Try looking them in the eye more and engage in conversation if possible so relate with them as a person and not just a sexual object.
     
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  4. Infinite spirit

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    He has more lust to the face than the body!
    The eyes must he the biggest turn on for him!
     
  5. Thank you, I missed that.
     
  6. PMO addict1

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    But Isn't it due to excessive masturbation... I used to masturbate 5-6 times daily for 10 years since age of 13 .... now I am 23.....isnt it due to that???
     
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  7. PMO addict1

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    I also feel self conciousness with men as well.. but more among women...
     
  8. Homeslice

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    It might be underlying social anxiety just in general, with some sexual overtones on top. Have you had many girlfriends in the past or very few? Hope that's not too personal.
    Either way, the other guy was right in saying therapy would help.
     
  9. PMO addict1

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    I never had any girlfriend
     
  10. TopGun777

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    It is very possible that you should ejaculate in order to lower those feelings.

    Have you asked your body about those 90 days of NoFap? Because I think it would answer you differently from what you are doing now.

    It is a very good practise to not always rely on others opinion, but to listen to your own body.
     
  11. PMO addict1

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    So
    So u r saying I should not do Nofap
     
  12. N0thing

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    I say finish the 90 days man. You're done with the half of the recommended time, sometimes that's not enough for long term addicts. Give it time and be patienced. Good thing happen slowly. :)
     
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  13. It is very difficult to change your thinking, but it is not impossible. Your brain is desperate for a fix. Do not give in and do not give up. it will get easier over time. Days 20-60 were very difficult for me, but it got easier afterwards.
     
  14. PMO addict1

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    I am very tense about my social akwardness.and lack of eye contact... will nofap heal this problem???
     
  15. Infinite spirit

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    Do you think that nofap is going to get you rid from this intense sexual cravings?!..absolutely not. In fact.. it will only increase it. You need to start a relationship .that's the only long -term solution.
     
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  16. 27 year old is considered a person that should have kids? Well you win America
     
  17. I am not able to comment on this, as there are too many factors that play into it to be certain. However, I can say with confidence that removing PMO from your life is for the best in the long-term. Many do report having greater social confidence when PMO is no longer habitual.
     
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  18. Infinite spirit

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    You can have kids at anytime you want even 19 yo..you just have to be man enough.
     
  19. TopGun777

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    There are some techniques for cultivating your sexual energy. That way it is possible to continue doing NoFap easier this time. You can search for them, with caution, of course.
     
  20. muted

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    27 years is not an age in which you must necessarily have children. Actually, you don’t have to have them at all. The guy just started nofap, don’t put pressure on him. My reboot lasts a year and a half, I have not recovered yet, I am not even able to have a good relationship with a woman. Let the guy recover. It's nothing personal. Just don’t tell him that he should do certain things just because you have such an attitude to life. This is often in this forum.

    I think you should stop looking at women so often if it really makes you excited. After some time, maybe after a few months it should pass. I am not saying that you will not feel the excitement, but it will be healthier. Do not look at butts, breasts, legs etc. I also felt excitement when I looked at, for example, women's lips. You know what I mean... If there is excitement in different situations, then reject this incentive. Don’t look or think about things that arouse your excitement. Flatline will appear, probably. It’s very possible. But after a few months you can see the difference.
     
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