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Should I stop approaching Woman?

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Deleted Account, May 2, 2019.

  1. Hey guys. This is kind of long. But recently I've been getting to know this woman at work and we are just casual co workers and we don't have each others number's yet or anything. I haven't been to chatty with her in the past because I knew she already had a boyfriend. I was cool with it and I still talked to her. Recently I broke up with a girl I had a online relationship with because it wasn't working well out and I told her I was single. We always say hi to each other and talk for a little bit while were working. She usually acts interested towards me so I just play..

    Fast forward maybe 2-3 weeks.
    Today we were talking and we had a normal conversation in the back of my work. Then out on the floor we were working in the same area together for a while. I talked to her and I said how are thing's going the usual.. yada yada. I asked her if she did anything with her boyfriend for the weekend and she said that they have broken up. I found it weird that she did. So I acted a little more chatty, (maybe my downfall). She then says's to me. "Ohhhh But I've found someone hes from the army, he has allot of money.." I felt a sense of just stopping to try after. After that I finished up my work and just left the area...

    I feel done chasing after Woman when it keeps crashing down on me. I'm just wondering if I should give up? I have heard that this boost's up you're vibration, but I'm finding hard to believe right now.
     
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  2. Infrasapiens

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    Knowing when to back off is good. A lot of idiots need that ability and they do not know it. Just keep trying.
     
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  3. 1978

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    Yeah, give up on her and find someone else.
     
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  4. Ghost79

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    I stopped chasing women after I gave a compliment to a woman on the street tried to have a normal conversation with her. She gave me a dirty look and told me to f*** off!
     
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  5. I realised that chasing is stupid and only works 10% of the time, you can get a hookup or two but nothing sort of long term meaningful relation.
    What i suggest is to get rich, excel in what you are doing.
    And never keep trying, it'll make you crash and shatter one day.
    Make yourself worth.
    Excel in everything you do, be in top 1% and then you'll find ladies dying for your attention. Then you'll become a chooser.
    I was exactly in your position 1 year back. And realist answer is to do better in life OR settle for less and expect less.
    If i fail in my endeavor then i would settle for a little undereducated girl may be stupid or hard to handle but till that time no girl chasing.
    have you heard of "MGTOW" I strongly believe in that.
     
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  6. cns

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    Wow she seems like a gold-digger. lol. Such woman are not worth it. It is even possible she getting married to the army guy but does not even love's him. Just flirt with woman you are interested. If she is interested she will respond and then take it from there.
     
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  7. She might be. I remember we were talking about how she wanted to quite this job for a higher paying job that would of give her $13.50. I played my card and agreed with her and I just said do what you've gotta do. What hurts is that I over heard her talking to my other co worker the other day and shew as all in his face from how I saw they were talking. It just hurts and pisses me off..
     
  8. MGTOW... I have not heard of it? I'm having another situation with a girl I met online, but I'm just about to let her go. She doesn't act interested in me at all when I speak my heart to her.
     
  9. ClickClickBoom

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    Personally i find that to be a red flag, also doesn't it seam a bit too soon for her to be in another relationship already? Not really a good sign either.
    Just keep grinding op you will find what your looking for.

    Best wishes,
     
  10. Hank Pym

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    Why don't you be just a friend if its not working? Enjoy time with her as a human.
     
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  11. vapid

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    I agree with this. Seems like you really wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a woman like her anyway. But if you enjoy her company and like seeing her, remain friends with her. There's no need to burn any bridges.

    Just don't expect anything to develop between the two of you, and just enjoy being around each other. At least she wont think you're still pushing to take your friendship to something more that what it is and consider you a creep. :)
     
  12. 1978

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    That's just one woman. You gave up after one bad reaction from one woman?
     
  13. Ghost79

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    No but that was the final stroke for me. Almost all women just turn there away heads from me with a "thank you" and walk away. At the end of the day game I just feel defeated and low. So I think its not worth it anymore.
     
  14. 1978

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    Do you do online dating?
     
  15. Ghost79

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    Yes I have been on a few online dates but its really hard to find for me. On average I would find 1-2 dates per year from several dating sites combined!
     
  16. Bro I identify with you, dating can be really tough in certain times too. Where you look makes a difference.
     
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  17. Ghost79

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    I blame it because women find me unattractive. I am actually a pleasant, polite and calm person.
     
  18. Ghost79

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    I think it would be a good idea to say something to women who you find attractive but just with the intention of starting a conversation. Like "Hi, how are you doing?" In the village strangers do this all the time to each other, but in the city they may consider you weird and they will wonder what you want from them.
    But still your opening up to someone and they will at least understand that you want to socialize with them which is a good practice and how hard can saying hi to someone be anyway. It would also be a good habit for introverts and shy people and gain some social intelligence in the process.
     
  19. ReclaimedLife

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    This. If you get woman out of your head for a little while, don't focus your life on them and improve yourself as a person, you will attract the right one.

    I have seen and experienced that myself. For me, it was and is still painful to go through the transition phase, but i have gotten a glimpse of what is possible when you dont give up and are willing to change yourself, disregarding of women.

    Without that insanely strong drive i would have relapsed to porn and probably visited a prostitute because the will to have sex was so strong and overwealming.
    I even found the one i lost my virginity to, who gave me the most amazing first time any men could ask for, even if it was paid for. But after seeing her piture and fighting with my demons, knowing that everything i worked for will go down the drain, i stopped myself from going.

    The worst part was seeing those naked pictures, really. I stopped watching them and switched to hard mode afterwards, and tomorrow is day 30 of that, after quitting porn at the beginning of this year.

    Most of us can reach the top. But its just damn hard to get there. Otherwise it wouldn't be the top. It's not exactly crowded up there, because most people give up along the way.
    It all depends on your willpower and what kind of a life you want for yourself.
     
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  20. A lot of people have zero interest in dating a complete stranger they just met, so that might be part of your problem if that's the only way you're looking for dates. I would pretty much never accept a date offer from a strange man I know absolutely nothing about. Not only is it a high chance of not leading to anything meaningful, since you don't even know if you have the same beliefs on any important things, but for women it can be downright dangerous. They could be a psycho or rapist or murderer for all you know.

    Just saying, if you're expecting to find a mate by striking up conversation with strangers, you might be very disappointed and you might be looking for a long time. A LOT of women prefer to be friends with a guy first and actually get to know some important things about them before jumping into a dating relationship.
     
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