MO'ing on a regular, set schedule?

I think MOing is an ok thing. It's definently a natural urge at puberty/teen years anyways.... beyond that I don't know if it's natural, because I was PMOing by late teens.
I would say wait until you get an unprovoked erection that just appears without having to fantasize.
That would be your ideal time to MO... I've done the MO with a calender thing and sometimes it works and sometimes my body wants less and sometimes my body wants more, so it can be frustating.
You condition your body to have an orgasm on a schedule then, so you are not in a true natural rythm to know if you really desire release or not.
The only way to know is to wait to have a full erection without anything happening.

 

What made you think that quitting masturbation as well as porn wasn't the best option for you?

The problem with masturbation is it's so hard to do it in moderation. Initial good intentions can quickly deteriorate until you're back to doing it every day again. I have found this to be true throughout the last year.

From my experience, if you're masturbating at all, you are still enforcing to yourself that solo sex is acceptable. Therefore, in my opinion you are building up to a relapse. I have found that the easiest and best way to reboot is just to go cold turkey on everything. It's a lot simpler and is much faster.

I don't think it's a good idea to be masturbating every 3 days either. I doubt that your body really wants to orgasm every three days. That sounds like a rationalisation to masturbate more often. I find that the body will naturally push itself into an orgasm about once every 30-40 days on average (through wet dreams).

As for masturbation being healthy, there are no studies saying masturbation alone is healthy: the basis of the studies is to determine whether moderate ejaculation frequency is healthy.

 

Are you weaning off masterbation or just tryin to jak off?

 

IMO, if you're trying to quit porn, it's best to quit masturbation as well, but masturbating while abstaining from porn is still gonna work as long as you don't introduce porn or fantasies to it.

And what if you feel like you already quit porn and that it's something in the past? Then masturbation should be okay in moderation and without external, artificial stimulation. And whether or not you've quit porn, if you decide to continue MO'ing you should follow basic guidelines like only doing it when you get a spontaneous erection or when your body is horny and not your mind.

But all in all it's based on your goals and what works best for you. But one thing: NEVER schedule masturbating! It's the formula to building up that tension and anticipation which will give you a high likelihood of dropping back to porn, or doing it too often and resulting in a habit. I don't think the body would want to orgasm every 3 days, it's probably the Chaser Effect which makes your body want the stimulation again after awhile, avoid rationalizing with your mind!

Yes, MO'ing can be healthy to an extent for the body to just release and relax from time to time, but if done too excessively then it's only gonna drain you (not so much harm but you're gonna feel it in your energy levels). If you're able to do it in moderation then good for you because it's not easy, that's why I chose to quit MO even though I've gone 90 days hard mode and I feel quite free from porn, I don't want it back in my life.

One tip: Sexual Transmutation. You don't always have to masturbate when you feel sexual tension, you can use that increased surge of energy in your body to do productive stuff too. You can go for a jog, work out or go outside and expand your social circle. Things that don't require you to just settle work great, and that increased energy level would also allow you to be more alive when you're socializing, something many people would strive for in their social life.

Good luck! Peace.

 

I've personally never been able to masturbate without fantasizing. When I get the urge to masturbate I think of what my sex addiction therapist said, "when you get the urge to masturbate, stop and ask yourself 'what am I trying to bond with?" since enjaculating will cause my brain to realease chemicals that will reinforce the neural pathways I've already created with my addiction. Chemicals which will also cause me to bond to these fantasies I have when I mastrubate. IMO, no amount of relaxation is worth bonding to something which isn't real, and yes while I still fall from time to time, this advice from my therapist has helped a lot. No PMO, IMO, is the best way to go.

 

I tried the same thing after my original 90 day hard mode streak, but failed so hard, it took me almost a year to gather up the strenght to try nofap again. It sounded like a good idea, but it was the worst thing I could do. Because MO-ing pushed me back to P and I couldn't do anything to prevent it. It was surprising, considering that I just did 90 days on the first try before... Who knows why.

So as someone who was already in your shoes, I suggest not to MO again. On top of losing a great deal of benefits of nofap, you may be pushed back to porn.

In theory an MO schedule could work without P but in practice, I haven't seen anyone be able to do it.

Cheers!

 

I agree with a lot of you above. I stopped cold turkey and went for 90 some odd days before I orgasmed again. Those were the best days of my life,(after withdrawals of course) and I worked better than I ever had before. Then I let masturbation slip back in with that "itll be just once" lie, and from Oct to now ive been working to rid it of my life. Im guessing, had I not stopped cold turkey on all of it, and just stopped P I would be back in that again. And like someone said your body will rid itself of whatever it needs to WITHOUT your helping it.

 

This is what I've found as well. There have been times when I wanted to try "controlled fapping" where I fapped once every seven days. Theoretically this should work but I don't think I ever successfully made it past a single seven-day cycle. When I did manage to successfully do it, I fapped without any fantasizing at all; but in my experience, at least, this just wasn't sustainable, and I think it some ways it's actually more difficult than going cold turkey.

 

Is it ok if my wife masturbates me?

 

A classmate of mine masturbates once a week. He's a chick magnet at the school party. Not kidding, he sits down, ZOOM girl on his lap, 3 around him, like wtf..