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Gatoroid · May 7, 2019

Hey everyone,

Luckily just found this site. I am ecstatic to find a community like this.

I started watching porn and masturbating when I was young. I remember finding my dads magazines in like 3rd grade. My parents got divorced during this time. I believe I used pmo as an escape from the fighting and turmoil. As I think back through my life, even to this day pmo has been my coping/escape mechanism. I started watching the basics, but I've now reached the point where I have sought out risky sexual encounters. I would have hit rock bottom a year ago, but somehow my wife loves me enough to allow me to change. I see my demise on the horizon and cannot risk the beautiful family I have built, 3 little ones as well. I find myself harsh and judgemental of everything. I am no longer the funny, charismatic, kind man I can remember myself being.

The limited reading I have done here has shown all the other ways on have been effected. Thus reassuring me in this quest. One question I do have right out the gate. My wife and I have a pretty active sex life, 2 to 4 times a week for intercourse of any sort. Would backing off be helpful to.my cause? I can guarantee she only is at such frequency as a way to assuage me.

Thanks again and I really look forward to making this place home

synchros · May 7, 2019

Hi and welcome!

So I take it you aren't suffering from PIED and/or PIDE?

As for whether or not to take a break from your sex life, it really comes down to personal preference. Personally, sex tends to create a strong "chaser effect" for me, where I feel unsatisfied by the sex and get an even stronger urge to watch P (as sad as that sounds). Thus, I've decided to go completely without sex for at least a few months.

I'd advice you to do a lot of reading up on the subject of living a life free from PMO. There's loads of great information around these forums. Also ask yourself how deep this addiction runs in you. It's really easy to fall into the trap of rationalizing other questionable behaviors that aren't porn per se, but still hit those same brain pathways. E.g. watching women at the gym, in movies, magazines, on the street, whatever. When you hit a long streak you'll find your brain can become really creative at finding new sources of dopamine, and ideally you want to cut them all out (as well as you can, it's hard/impossible to do this perfectly).

Best of luck! Seeing as you have a wife and kids, you have a strong source of motivation to succeed. I believe in you.

Gatoroid · May 8, 2019

Thanks for your response. I dont have pied. However that doesnt mean I won't. I already have issues completing. I will definitely keep reading.

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