Wife spying

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Johntempted, Apr 28, 2019.

  1. TimeToQuitNow

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    Are you dumb? There are countless studies that show that when people in love have sex the chemicals in their brain make them more in love.

    However yes some people have sex with strangers for fun and others don't. But the point of marriage is to commit to each other. Why do that if you are just going to be a cuck who lets his wife sleep with other men? He's letting his fetish take control of his life. He made this thread in the problematic sexual behaviour section meaning he understands that this behaviour is problematic. But you're basically saying "some people are cucks and they are happy and so it's ok".

    If a man sleeps with his 5 year old son is that "ok". His a man sleeps with a monkey is that "ok". If 2 siblings have sex is that "ok". Is rape "ok". Where do you draw the line?

    Sexually behaviours can be problematic and some are downright immoral. You should know that seeing you are here so I assume you have has a problematic relationship with pornography. "But some people watch porn and are happy so it's ok for me to watch it". By your logic you should abide by that.

    You say that like someone should be emotionally equipped to deal with it. If she's trying to sleep with other people than she probably doesn't love me.

    Being "open minded" can be a good thing. But too much of a good thing is too much of a good thing. So yes I'll stick with my guns on this one and not be open minded on becoming a cuckold.
     
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  2. Rairah90

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    You made a mistake to share her pics, U should have let it go. I don't know what your colleagues would say but they for sure know that you are crazy. You were supposed to be reactive in that way. She made a choice to share her own pics, U have no right whatsoever to share her nudes. U degraded her. How wud you feel if she shared your dick pics to her colleagues. I don't know where this is going to end but, I suspect a tragic end
     
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  3. Rairah90

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    I am not saying she was right to cheat on you. But that was not the right way to react. U shud have just walked away
     
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  4. plzrlzme

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    How is your approach working out for you?
     
  5. Infrasapiens

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    I mean, you started giving me dating advice out of nowhere. If you'd like to continue this conversation, do it on PM.
     
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  6. plzrlzme

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    I said that sex cannot create a bond that doesn't already exist. I've had sex with strangers. Have you?

    So, basically you agree with what I wrote, but agreeing with me might mean that you are not the most secure guy in the world.

    And they don't have to be strangers. You can also have sex with friends for fun. You can even have sex with someone you love for fun.

    Sometimes the point is to get a green card. Sometimes it is for wealth. I don't see how continuing to define things like 'sex' and 'marriage' based on your own desires is leading you towards understanding anyone else.

    How can you let your wife sleep with other men if you don't have a wife? You didn't think of that, did you.

    Yes.

    No. That is called "rape" and it is illegal. Who taught you that consensual sex between adults is equivalent to raping children?

    Consensual sex between adults. Where do you draw it? Didn't you just argue five seconds ago that consensual sex between adults is equivalent to pederasty?

    Are you talking to yourself in my voice now? I really got into your head. That is not, and has never been, my logic. Just because I don't think it is necessary to apply the same restrictions on other people that I apply to myself doesn't make me a hypocrite. It just means that I know what I need to do for my life better than I know how other people should be living theirs.



    No, I say that like it is good advice for *you.* That doesn't mean it applies to everyone. I've been friends with swingers for years and they are pretty happy people.

    That one flew over your head. You said you would seriously consider breaking up, not that you would break up. I was making fun of you for not showing more conviction.
     
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  7. Infinite spirit

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    You have no logic whatsoever. You are just open and free about sexuality. You believe every adult can do whatever the fuck they want sexually. This approach is clearly wrong . And this very approach is the cause of porn industry and prostitution and sexual diseases and all that fucked up disgusting shit in the West. Sex is only with your wife. No arguing about it. That's how it meant to be.you misuse sex..it will fuck you up.. as it probably did with you..and now you are trying to rationalize cheating and all sorts of weird sexual acts pretending to be a smartass.
     
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  8. TimeToQuitNow

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    No. I'm waiting till marriage. I'm a very devout Muslim, I see sex outside of marriage as immoral. But do as you will.


    I'm ok agreeing if we agree. You just aren't as clear as you think you are

    It isn't my desire. As far as I'm concerned marriage is a contract that binds a man and a woman together in the eyes of God. It is his desire.

    But I get your point. Other people don't see it that way. I'll concede to this one.

    No I don't have a wife. Do you let your wife have sex with other men? Is that why you defend this cuck so much?

    Cuckoldry is a form of adultery. I believe adultery should be illegal. Marriage is a contract (a government issued one at that) and cheating violates that contract. This is not an unreasonable proposal since adultery is illegal in many nations. Here is a list of all the countries where adultery is illegal:

    * Democratic Republic of Congo
    * Egypt
    * Morocco
    * Nigeria (some parts)
    * Afghanistan
    * Bangladesh
    * Indonesia
    * Iran
    * Maldives
    * Nepal
    * Pakistan
    * Philippines
    * United Arab Emirates
    * United States of America (some states)
    * Algeria
    I argued that cucking, which is a form of adultery, is equivalent to pederastry in the sense that both are immoral.

    Porn is immoral period.

    Would you want your mom to be a porn star? Or your sister? Or your daughter? Or your wife (actually you might like that one)

    Good for them

    Ok you got me on this one. I was hesitant since it never happened to me so I'm unsure what I'd do. But yea, I'm pretty sure I'd brake up with her.
     
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  9. plzrlzme

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    ...and? Did I say or address anything about you that you haven't made public? We are in a thread where a guy was talking about masturbating to and illicitly distributing photos of his cheating wife. I fail to see how giving you dating advice out of nowhere added to the shock value.

    If *you* would like to continue this conversation, PM me. I'm not going to continue to badger you with unwanted advice you will never use.
     
  10. plzrlzme

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    You do realize where you are, right? Nice fake disgust. Does feeling morally superior to the filth you read get you off?

    Then ask for clarification.



    Oh, and here I thought you desired to get married and be bound together with a woman in the eyes of God. I wonder where I got that impression...?

    Seems kind of obvious.

    It would be really convenient for this argument if I did, right? But I don't have to share someone's lifestyle in order to be okay with them living it. I don't really see how passing judgment on other people makes my life any better.

    Maybe it should be illegal for you to masturbate.

    That's like saying that murdering children is morally equivalent to stealing a car. I'm just never going to agree that such arguments represent anything approaching a moral position that makes any sense.

    And so are you?

    Weird question. Do you "want" your dad to bang your mom? Or do they just do it of their own accord because their sex life is none of your business?

    You seem like one of those guys who fantasizes about mind controlling women. It would make sense given your insecurity.

    You know, I wasn't certain what kind of person you were until I read this comment.

    Easily the most honest response you've written so far.

    *break
     
  11. Infrasapiens

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    Dude, just "No" was enough. And accept that other people have different views of things. Act like an adult.
     
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  12. elmma

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    in my opinion it's ok
     
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  13. plzrlzme

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    ? If you made this comment in the context of our conversation, I have no desire to continue pushing unwanted and unhelpful advice on you.
     
  14. TimeToQuitNow

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    You can feel disgusted over things you aren't a part of. I can give a number of examples but you'll just claim that they aren't equivalent.

    Didn't think I needed to
    I see what you are saying but it's kind of a moot point. I already said people see it differently so I'll concede on the argument. You seem to stir up trouble for no reason. It's immature.
    If I did have one would it make my points more valid? I don't get the point of that comment.
    Yet you pass judgement on me.
    You don't actually believe that. If you did though you have every right to argue your claim. In a free society we have every right to argue our points and if enough people agree then it becomes the law of the land.

    Stealing can be compared to murdering children as they are both immoral. I would argue murder is worse than stealing. I would also argue that child rape is worse than adultery. That doesn't mean they both aren't immoral and can't be lumped into the group of things that are immoral.

    And as far as I'm concerned they should all land you in jail if you are found guilty of it.
    Fair enough
    So you're cool with your family members being porn stars? Seems you have lost all sense of shame. No surprise there
    I don't have these types of fantasizes and never have. Nice try though.

    Also you started this argument/conversation with me out of nowhere by replying to my initial post and patronizing me. Maybe check your own insecurities before questioning mine
    And what type of person is that?
    Cool
     
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  15. Infrasapiens

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    I am happy that we agree.
     
  16. Where ever the OP went I hope he has at least sat down and had a lot talk with his wife. No matter what they end up doing or not doing, it needs to be out in the open.
     
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  17. Infinite spirit

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    What exactly is ok?! Clarify.
     
  18. Infinite spirit

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    Hey..stop this right now. Anyone can pass judgment. The OP shared his story because he know he's doing wrong. It's a natural instinct to care about your wife and protect her from other men. Even the fucking animals did it. A man who is ok about his wife being fucked from other men and moreover he sits there and enjoys it..is not even a man. He is a cuckold . Yeah I judge him .No arguing . Until you admit that you are OK with me sleeping with your wife (if you had or will have one) then don't you dare arguing again.
     
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  19. TimeToQuitNow

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    Yea I'm not sure why he defends cuckoldry so much. It is wrong and he's giving OP the wrong idea. His wife cheated on him and he's supposed to be cool with it? Give me a break!
     
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  20. Hello tempted John, my cuckold friend . . .
    I read this post and immediately started getting a hard-on. I should recoil from it as from a hot flame, but yet I read on :rolleyes:
    I think I can relate to what you are experiencing as
    some 14 years ago my smoking hot stripper girlfriend cheated on me with a tattooed motorcycle riding bad boy and he pleased her with his massive 9" cock in ways that I never could with my little 4 1/2 inches. Sorry if that's too graphic, even with the trigger warning.
    Long story short (no pun intended): that's where my cuckold fantasies really took hold. I lost the girl and over the next ten+ years my fantasies got more and more depraved until
    I was chronically single and fantasising about being forever rejected by women and pussy free for the rest of my life :oops:

    You wrote that you love your beautiful wife and you don't want to dump her. Well,
    You're an orgasm addict. If we have one orgasm, it takes about two weeks for the brain to recover from that massive blast of dopamine. How long has it been since you've gone two weeks without an orgasm? How long do you think it would take to recover from years of excessive orgasms?? After an orgasm, we feel euphoric. Then we go into withdrawal. One of the most potent ways to get out of that withdrawal is to have another orgasm. And, if you are an addict, eventually you need more and more powerful orgasms to feel that euphoric relief.
    You told your friends and coworkers about your cheating wife because it got you high as fuck. You're getting high from the humiliation. You're probably loving this experience right now, but eventually even this won't be enough and you'll need something more extreme to get your relief. And, in the process, you may lose your beautiful wife.

    There is a way out. But you're probably not going to like it. In short it is this: no more orgasms. That means, for starters, no more porn, no more masturbation. You need to give yourself a chance to heal and it will probably take a lot longer than two weeks. But, if you can give that up, you might once again experience love for your wife like when you first met. You will get out of your addictive destructive cycle of endlessly pursuing the next mind-blowing orgasm and you will start living a rich a rewarding life.

    Interested, but not sure where to turn? Start looking into semen retention and sexual transmutation. Read the book "Cupid's Poisoned Arrow"

    I have spent years wrestling with my cuckold obsessions. I could let go of the light porn, but I could never let go of the cuckold fantasy because I convinced myself that the rush it gave me was proof that I needed to have that experience and that that intense high was so strong that it must be what life is all about (for me). Luckily, someone here helped me to see that I am just addicted to orgasms.

    I hope you choose to get better. If you choose to pursue your cuckold obsession, I hope that you don't destroy yourself or anyone else in the process and that you always know that there is another way.

    Good luck.
     

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