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I am done.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by whatamidoingwithmylife, May 31, 2019.

  1. whatamidoingwithmylife

    whatamidoingwithmylife Fapstronaut

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    I joined nofap recently because masturbation is killing me.
    i am 17 year old teen who lost enthusiasm, motivation, creativity and patience to do anything. i feel worthless because i am literally not good at anything.

    i lost so much of creativity and patience that describing myself on this thread is like calculus to me and i still haven't even started describing myself yet

    i have been masturbating for almost 5 years and there's hardly been a day where i haven't masturbated during this period mainly because i was travelling.

    as i mentioned above i am seriously not at good anything like i dont have any skills. i have inferiority complex and i think everyone is better than me. i am so much awkward and clingy that i didnt even get the role of tree or stone in school drama play.

    i was 15 years old when i first learned to make a bit of eye contact with people. i am 17 and i still haven't talked to any girl or women in my entire life except my family members and teachers. neither i approached a girl nor they approached me. no i am not gay.

    i have low self esteem and i am done with this life
     
  2. LeNTE

    LeNTE New Fapstronaut

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    Hi! I am also a new member. I believe it will be difficult, but with effort I have confidence we can both improve on our current situations. Don't give in, just start getting after it!
     
  3. Always be positive

    Always be positive Fapstronaut

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  4. Trust me, I totally get it. I'm seventeen as well, and I started masturbating to porn when I was somewhere around eleven. I've experienced a lot of the same things that you're describing.

    I'm glad that you recognize what's actually causing these problems. You haven't mentioned porn, but I'm assuming that you probably masturbate to porn, feel free to correct me on that if I'm wrong.

    Just know that it does get better with time. I've always been someone that's struggled big time with social anxiety and awkwardness, to the point where I couldn't even talk in class, or do anything really...and when I started doing these streaks all of that basically disappeared. I started being able to do things again, I could make eye contact with people, I even did a presentation in front of the whole class at school, which was something that seemed totally impossible before that.

    There is hope, and this can get better. Recognize that this will be a journey, and it's going to be difficult. But, it'll all be well worth it. It might not feel like it's doing a whole lot at first, but trust me, it is. Just give it a while of doing the streaks, even if you have to reset it a few times, and understand that every day without masturbating and porn is a step in the right direction, and you will feel better.

    Welcome to NoFap, and best of luck to you! :)
     
  5. whatamidoingwithmylife

    whatamidoingwithmylife Fapstronaut

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    thank you for taking your precious time to reply.

    most of the time I masturbate is not because I feel horny but because i want to escape from the reality or in other words I masturbate to cope up with reality and also because I can't sleep without masturbating.

    your words have truly motivated me and gave me some hope.

    just want to know how many days or months did it take for you to recover and see the difference in self esteem?

    I just made a new thread I hope to see your thoughts on that. here's the link
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/masturbation-has-killed-me-story-time.234840/

    good day !
     
  6. After about a month, I noticed a significant difference. I did relapse during that time, but because I didn't binge, it didn't set me back completely. So, you're looking at about a few weeks to really start to see a noticeable difference. Keep us posted.

    Also, yes I'll take a look at your other post.

    I would recommend that you start a reboot log here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php#reboot-logs.8

    Good luck!
     

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