Hello everyone, this is exciting...

You're in the right place. Check out the glossary https://www.nofap.com/glossary/

You can also start a reboot log https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php#reboot-logs.8

Trying to help others is the key to helping yourself, in my opinion. Just start replying to other posts and encouraging those that seem to need help.

You can do it!

 

Hey @NathanDrake,

Welcome to NoFap! It sounds like you've definitely come to the right place. NoFap is a great resource for those that are trying to quit watching porn, masturbating, or both.

As you've probably found out, this is a pretty powerful addiction, so it's going to take some determination. Like any addiction, you have to truly want it out of your life in order to get it out of your life. But, it'll all be well worth it. It'll be good for you, and it'll also be good for your girlfriend.

Just a bit of advice, I would suggest against slowly reducing porn use if it can be helped. The thing is, with porn that doesn't really work very well and will actually only make things more difficult. It's up to you, I just thought I'd mention it. Ultimately, you're the only one that knows what works best for you.

I would recommend starting a reboot log here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php#reboot-logs.8. It'll help you keep track of your progress, gain support, and stay motivated to continue.

Good luck, and welcome!

 

Welcome to the forum and nice to get to know ya. You have found your "why" and now you answering the question "what" are you going to do to fix it. Stay focused on what matters. Peace be with you.

 

Welcome bro!
What you used to do(M but no O) it's called edging. Edging is actually worse, but your purpose was on the right place.

Don't your life be driven by your sexual desires. Let your sexual desires be the result of something.

 

Welcome

the sole fact that you have a partner is a real benefit towards healing and overcoming porn.
re-rooting into sensual sexuality again is possible.

maybe this thread by @Always be positive will also help you:
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/if-youre-struggling.232140/

 

What you are describing is "edging" (see the Glossary at the top of this page for definitions of abbreviations and terms that may be new to you.) Edging is really bad for you.


Short version: DO NOT EDGE ! EVER !

Edging is really bad. Edging trains your body and mind to expect and to need prolonged, often very intense, stimulation in order to reach O. That level of mental and physical stimulation doesn't happen with PIV relations. Guess what: when you attempt PIV, your body and mind don't receive the kind of stimulation it needs to O, instead your body responds with PIED and DE. Not good.

Edging does NOTHING good, so stop. Easier said than done, but it is certainly NOT impossible and very much worth every bit of effort required to stop this damaging activity.

For more information about edging, have a look at:

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/reb...masturbate-edge-or-watch-porn-without-orgasm/

DO NOT EDGE. EVER !

So, it sounds like you are already experiencing delayed ejaculation. Stop edging, and stop PMO and your DE will get better (won't take so long to O).

You can do this. Its not simple, its not easy, but the results are very much every bit of effort you put into it.

One day at a time is how we all succeed.

 

Read a complete reply on your other thread. You describe "benefits", yet you complain of "needing much time to ..." . It seems like your "benefits" are the root of what you identify as problematic.

One day at a time is how we all succeed.