A day away from 90 days!

well, here I am! If I were to go back in time one year, my old self would have never believed this possible! Honestly!

I am grateful for this website - writing embarrassing things about myself, asking help urgently, or reading success stories (or lapse stories) was a huge component of my progress.

I feel great. There are no blue balls or flatlining. I feel that my body is settled into a pattern of nocturnal emissions of 1-3 times per month. I am fine with that as it is not creating any fantasies, etc. My wife is super pregnant and doesn’t want sex much but when we do have sex, she is all over how great it was. Well yeah, I’m 100% there and way more into appreciating the pleasure that doesn’t come from my hands.

I definitely do not want to go back to PM. I’m a dad of one boy and with another boy almost here, I want to give them a legacy based on character building and inner strength. And I have to walk that walk!

And if I fail, I’ll just get up and continue with what I know is good!

Finally, a shoutout to those folks who immediately responded to me when I almost lapsed about a month ago and ran here for help!

Thanks for reading and good luck to all of us! What we are doing has immeasurable and far reaching consequences.

 

Hey, thanks for the kind words, everyone!

Now, about my urges... honestly, I can only speak for myself. Everybody is different.

My urges used to be intense before. Now they are much less frequent. It’s like my body is beginning to forget that M is an option. Hence the nocturnal emissions, I suppose. I don’t always experience an orgasm at night - It just happens.

What helps me when I do feel the urges? I noticed that I usually PM’ed to relax. So, working out, cold showers, etc, didn’t work for me, because ultimately I would still like to sit down after a long week, to chill and wank.

When I figured that out, life became a bit easier. I started coming here to write about my progress or to read other people’s stories, instead of wanking.

So, I guess, my answer is, figure out what your triggers are and replace them.

Also, do not try to convince yourself that you are doing the right thing. The part of you that wants to PM is way move powerful than the best argument you can come up with. So, just figure out what triggers you and replace it with something else. Don’t argue with yourself. The urges will subside, eventually!

Hope this helps!

 

Good luck, brother! Be the best you can be for your little girl!

It is shameful now for me to think that I would try to put my kid to bed quickly to jerk off when my wife wasn’t around. How effed up is that?

I think that alone will help me keep going! I followed you so let’s connect!

 

You HAVE to say that because your penis listening!