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my first time here to know and talk about the only thing i do in my life that ashamed of

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Utchiha Itachi, Jun 4, 2019.

  1. Utchiha Itachi

    Utchiha Itachi New Fapstronaut

    i don't know yet how this site works properly, but i m really happy to join and talk about it because it eats me inside and can't tell anyone i know about being drained because i just got this habit. i'm 24 christian male.. it all started spontaneously in the bath maybe 6 years ago. i knew nothing about sex or any kind of sexual contents by any matter .. i was pure really ..
    i didn't know how i got the idea in bath that lead me to masturbate .. but it just happened .. the strange thing is , i was happy .. it felt great then .. but i din't know what was that , nothing but a good thing that i discovered ...
    - i got shocked when i knew that this called " Masturbation" and it is not appropriate to go such a thing .. i got sad and frustrated and so tortured .. because i have religious believes that prevents those actions for the sake of my purity.. i was in high school then.. so clever and full of energy and it started to fade away .. my degrees got down.. i started to be more irritated to everyone especially my parents .. got bad marks and went to a medical school and i started to go so wild when i got my iPhone and free access to wifi in a single room >> just imagine ... over the years i realized my problem and stared to take actions most of them failed .. others required alot of well which i haven't for thing particular habit .. i stared to enhance my grades and cope with this curse .. started to love myself despite doing it .. i need you help >> if anyone reading this .. please assure me at least that i can stop this .. i'm really successful due to all my attempts to be a good person , but still i got this stuck to me .. despite all the good things and good people around me .. thank you and it would be agreat thing to guide me to particular ways that worked ..
     
  2. Dizzy Lotus

    Dizzy Lotus Fapstronaut

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    Huh, that's interesting! I often wonder whether masturbation on itself would be harmful, but you make it sound like it was.
    Oh, before I forget: thanks for coming here, and sharing these things. [​IMG]
    By now you are also addicted to porn or related media, right? You said "just imagine", but I'm not sure. [​IMG]
    I think you will have to find your way yourself. [​IMG]
    But some things that have worked for me:
    - praying in moments of difficulty/temptation
    - if you have a best friend, tell them about it, and if you feel comfortable with that, ask if you can send them a message when you're in trouble
    - web filters, but being able to turn them off easily. The filters help catching you when you click a link, but if you for example make it so that you don't know the password yourself, you'll find other ways to access 'stuff' and relapse, it will just take a lot more time.
    - a physical notebook to write down temptations. I haven't heard of other people doing this but to me it seems like a good idea, and I have done it for almost two years now: when you are tempted, or gave in to temptation, you can write this down, to become more aware of the challenge you're having. You can also do this on NoFap, and it might help you, but the issue is that to access the NoFap forum you need to go on the web, and the web is full of temptations. Even on NoFap itself, in fact. When you have a notebook, you can write down difficulties or challenges at any time, without bring yourself into these difficult situations. [​IMG]

    But I'll say it again: you'll probably have to find your own ways, as everyone's journey is different. But you can certainly try the things other people mention, as they might work for you as well!

    One last thing: not to discourage you, but don't be surprised if 5 years from now you are still addicted. You might have to keep battling with the temptations for the rest of your life, but do not give up! Even the battle itself will have positive results, as you'll learn more about yourself, train motivation and discipline, and hopefully build your relationship with God by asking for determination in tough moments, and asking for forgiveness in case of missteps.

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  3. I don't know you but one thing I can say to you without hesitation: You can do it. Everybody can do it. It's just willpower and everybody has it, and you too. The tips I can give to you with my recent experience (only 35 days so idk how powerful is as a tip) are 2: 1) don't start like you can't fail.. The important thing is knowing that you started now.. You're not arrived.. Maybe you will lose in the next 10 days but it doesn't matter.. Write here e then again another try until you'll win 2) nofap alone is kind of stressing you should add something.. I mean everyone are here bc porn ruined also something else in their life(for me is university) so, you said you have great faith, maybe you should start NoFap and I don't know and at least one time a day dedicates 20 minutes to pray in order not to give up(I, for example, force myself to study so I distract myself and also I will go better in university)
    so in conclusion just don't give up you'll get it
     
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  4. Utchiha Itachi

    Utchiha Itachi New Fapstronaut

    Dizzy .. i really can't thank you enough .. you gave me such a great boost that i've been heard and got a positive feedback .. you are right about finding my own path .. that was a wise sentence to say .. i hope and pray to be a good person that accepts himself and try to build his character on right basis ... i'll will do my best .the good news is today will be my first day of stopping .. it will be crazy like hell cause i;ve been through before ,but i'll try again. thank you
     
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  5. Utchiha Itachi

    Utchiha Itachi New Fapstronaut

    many thanks to you "fg" i really appreciate you support and your time to write this comment . it really helped me out .. it feels so great to know that there are other people and other thinking minds that wish you a good life and be free because they know the massive damage porn would do... thanks alot my friend .. best luck to you.
     
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  6. Hey & Welcome to NoFap Community! :)

    You are in the right place for recovery here. We are so glad to have you with us to beat this addiction together.

    You can go read some Success Stories in the "Success Stories" section to learn more about the benefits of NoFap , get useful tips and ideas to help you in the reboot.

    If you have any question about rebooting, you can ask it in the "Rebooting" section.


    And I would recommend you to make your own journal in the "Reboot logs" corresponding to your gender & age to track your everyday progress.
    You can also join challenges in the "Events & Challenges" section, to keep yourself motivated and focused.




    You may start by checking the links below:
    Learn more about Rebooting.
    Forum Usage Guide.
    List of Rebooting Resources.




    Best of luck to you in your journey!





    -The Winner
     
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  7. Always be positive

    Always be positive Fapstronaut

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