No pmo but cant stop drinking

You expect to drink a lot this coming weekend? Or you have been drinking a lot. I assume you are referring to the future as otherwise you would know how it affected you already.

Alcohol is a substance that tends to lower your guard towards things you seek to avoid doing. It all depends on how you react to alcohol. I usually am able to retain what's important to me even when I'm drunk. But I rarely drink more than 3 beers during a night out as I don't see how anything beyond that really improves the experience.

Some people don't actually react badly while drunk but see it as an excuse to do stuff they shouldn't because of the common knowledge surrounding alcohol that it is a sense-lowering substance.

 

My drinking is up in direct proportion to how hard I am fighting PMO with will power alone.

Self medicating the same issue with a different drug.

I'm focused on the fixing the issue while trying to drink moderately and not masturbate.

My issues are a big shit show of things related to low self esteem and some childhood trama.

My porn and poor drinking choices are with me at some level until I get the issues corrected.

And yes I think it impacts recovery. I like to drink alcohol (bourbon, craft beer guy here) but it is poison to the body. And as self medication it is just another way to get that dopamine pop. I can't detail how it will impact recovery but at the very least it will do nothing positive.

Same struggle so don't take me as being preachy!

 

So you drink more when you're not watching porn/masturbating to compensate?

I am a recovering drug addict. 1,5 years clean now. If you are suffering from alchoholism I would suggest that you stop drinking completely as soon as possible. It only gets worse the deeper you go and you can damage your brain by making it dependent on dopamine. This happened to me and I now have to deal with my past choices.

For childhood trauma I would recommend therapy. Go for it and don't settle until you've found a therapist that you like.

Of course not, I don't think preachy is even a concept on this forum. As it addresses issues of the soul.

 

It will sound difficult but it's actually easier after you do it once. Actually, I think the first minute is the hardest.

When you come home and feel like PMO, but jump to the bottle, just pause for 2 minutes. Pause, nothing else. Feel the urge in your body, you're likely to get anxious, panicked, frustrated, angry. Stay with these feelings, don't push them aside, don't try to run away from them. Your body will heat up. Stay like that, it will feel like dying, but you won't die. After a couple of minutes your body will cool down. This way you have processed a repressed emotion that until this moment you didn't want to feel, so you jumped to the bottle. You can have a drink after this session. After a few of such these sessions, your cravings are likely to subside drastically and your addiction will probably be gone in a little while.

All addictions are escaping/coping mechanism, running away from the emotional pain. Because it hurts. But dealing with the pain is the only correct way out.

Good luck!

 

This! Is good advice.

 

Know your priorities. NoFap is #1 for me. You? You can also use willpower to stop or put-off drinking as well but just know which comes first.

Also I don't know how bad your addiction to alcohol is, but possibly be quite relaxed on it until your nofap habits are secure. As in, go easy on yourself and just allow yourself to enjoy your alcohol right now (as you don't sound like an alcoholic).

 

Big hangovers are a huge problem for me in terms of sex drive. I'm therefore trying ways to reduce the booze.

 

I've been enjoy few night drinks before bed makes me sleep better not up all night Chasing my thoughts...

 

That's a slippery slope mate. You don't want to develop a dependency. You will find yourself unable to sleep without the drinks. I had this with weed before I quit 18 moths ago.

 

If that's true, just focus on no PMO. And take one step at a time, don't try to conquer the world all at once, I know it's tempting but it's not going to ultimately get you anywhere. Keep it up, man! You got this!

 

Guys, addictions cannot be solved with only will power, but by experience fully and consciously those emotions that turn up when you have the crave.

 

This is normal as addictive behaviors tend to run together. Your brain cant get the dopamine from PMO so it fools you into drinking alcohol to make it up.

For me, I did better abstaining from PMO longer when I gave up weed and video games along with it. By drinking more alcohol, youre not learning to function without the dopamine rush so youre still too dependent on addiction to make real progress. By adding No alchohol/drugs / video games / addictive snacks to no PMO youre getting a real clean reboot from dopamine. It's much harder but it will improve your ability to let go of PMO in the long run, improve your confidence and self control.