thats it i give up...

Hello!

It is good to have you here. Many of us were in a similar situation.

Rethink the dropping out from the school? Will you learn something at home alone? For example computer programming? I believe that it might be very hard when you lack a motivation to basically anything.

For me goals were something that dragged me out from the deep s**t I was in. I also have a friend who is aware that I have my problems.

So maybe think of some kind of a small goals, milestones.

What do you want to do in your life?

You can also think of yourself in the distant future:

1. You are still playing games, do not learn, stick to PMO? Who will you become? Because this idleness affects your whole life.

2. Think of you as a person who fought for the better future. For a family, for some quality friends, for a good (better) job.

I am aware that it would not be easy, but it is worth it. Even if you fall at some point you should stay on course.

Think of the profession that you want to achieve. What are the steps to achieve it? How many steps? In what time? Write it down, it helps. And try to step by step complete the milestones.

Stay strong and motivated!

If you want to write me a message do not hesitate.

Best,
HC

 

Hey man,

Sorry to hear your feeling like this but you cannot give up! You have to beat your lower brain and be the best you can be.

The brain is made up of three parts - the highest brain which deals with complex issues is called the intellect. The middle brain deals with emotion and the lower brain which is called the reptilian/appetitive brain is the part that deals with urges and desires.

Right now your letting your reptilian/appetitive brain win. You have to subjugate your lower brain using the intellect.

It is not easy to do this because we often feed out lower brain with triggers and food.

So the first question is what are your eating habits like? Are you overeating or eating lots of meat/junk food on those days you give in? Your diet is likely to be affecting your urges.

Secondly you mention a few things on your post:

This is actually a really good sign. If you feel bad doing this then take solice that your not a lost case. Don't ever get to the stage where you give up because you can beat this.

I know people who failed exams at school who got back on the horse and smashed it the 2nd time. If you are sure school is not right for you then so be it but don't just make this decision whilst your in this state.

This is not a big deal even if it is a record for you.

This happens. I would recommend going to the partner support forum here and you will realise there are so many problems that you might cause by being in a relationship with this addiction.

Finally, I would get yourself an accountability partner and work with them through this. Also, get away from gaming and go outside to do excecise like going for a walk - it really helps clear your head.

Good luck buddy, I'll be praying for you.

 

ur not the first.. And won't be the last.
was involved with this Pmo for 10 yrs and just d way u described it is almost the exact experience many of us pass tru.
I went tru my diary yesterday (I had determined to end this this year) and I saw the many times I fell. Before I knew it.. I started getting some strength i started going 30 days before a rare relapse. And now.. I am almost 90 days. If I can do it.. U can do it bro.
meanwhile try and stop viewing erotic vids/ pics. At least for d next 30 days.. Then 45 then 90.. Before u know it.. U get over it.
for me. I don't intend to involve myself in dis shit anymore.

#u can do it

 

Where do you think I started my Journey? At 20%? NO. I STARTED AT SQUARE 0.

 

I've been in a similar situation, and lost over 20 years of my life to PMO. We didn't have such a thing as nofap back in the early 2000's when I turned 18, I wish we did as that would've probably saved me from all these wasted years of gaming and PMO. Think of a simple goal that you want to achieve. Like for example, try to be without PMO for the next few days. Don't play video games either. Only turn your computer on for studying and when you're done, turn it off. Get that school project out of the way and then be proud of yourself. See how it effects your life. Then turn that extra energy to other aspects of your life. Go for a walk for 30 minutes. It might not feel good and you get the feeling that others are staring at you. Well, guess what? They don't. Be yourself and work on small steps and build on them. Soon you'll notice that all of these small things will lead to a bigger picture. It might seem hopeless now, but remember that life is a precious thing, your parents worked so hard to get you into this world and raise you. Every day should be taken as a blessing, not everyone has the chance.

Try to talk to your parents about your problems. Talking really helps. I'm sure they'll understand what you're going through and can steer you in the right direction. There are so many people with mental problems these days, but that's because people don't talk to each other like they used to. We can't expect problems to go away if we keep them inside and watch pixels on a screen.

Not every profession is suitable for everyone, but even if you don't like your current area of study, it's always a plus if you manage to graduate with extra experience in a line of business. Then you can study a new profession and get even more experience. Dropping out of the school is one of the worst mistakes you can make. Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day. Simple things lead to greatness.

Also, are you religious? Even if you're not, I recommend reading the Bible. There are so many good aspects there that you can reflect on your own life. Also many handy tips for life in general. I don't want to push anyone, but praying, reading the Bible and meditating really helps me.

All the best to you.