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Sum up of 35 days of PMO

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Pepa, Jun 17, 2019.

  1. Jun 17, 2019 #1
    Pepa

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    Hi guys,
    I successfully take 35 days of PMO (the goal is 90).
    I would like to sum up. I think I have no problems without porn, no new energy. I think, that porn in my life was only a fog in front of the bigger problem - the taste to have a lot of sex with real girls. The porn only help me to dont think about it, to not search for a real girls on the social networks etc.
    Now I have no porn, but the taste for real girls is much more bigger.I am married, I have my wife for sex, but there is still a taste for another women.
    Can You help me how to deal with this?Much more worse that only watching porn.
    Thanks
     
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  2. Jun 17, 2019 #2
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    Noone can help you deal with this, YOU have to deal with this. And if you cant deal with it, go to a professional therapist for guidance.
     
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  3. Jun 17, 2019 #3
    Pepa

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    great I was there a lot of times without results :)
     
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  4. Jun 17, 2019 #4
    LavaMe

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    I understand your problem. First off do you really want sex with other women or are you looking for connection and validation? People often seek out sex to fill a void in their lives.

    I am a little concerned about your comment that you have your wife for sex. It is true you do, but that is not all wives are for. Maybe improving that relationship would help you to not want to seek out sex as much.
     
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  5. Jun 17, 2019 #5
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    I think you missed the first part of what I said, which is even more true now that I know you already attempted to get help, I will repeat it below:

    Noone can help you deal with this, YOU have to deal with this

    People think they will go to a therapist and therapist will solve their problem, or they think they will buy a book and somehow it will solve the problem, then they think they will ask others and somehow that will solve the problem, then they "fill in the blank" and then they do "fill in another blank" so then they try "fill in third blank" hoping that somehow this will help.

    You have to deal with yourself, others can only help motivate you.

    Solving mental issues is matter of testing and seeing what works, creating a strategy that helps you follow though your planned behavior. That is no different than going to the Gym, you just have to get to it. Therapist offers guidance and visiting a therapist is about 10% of process of dealing with your issue. Therapist will try to understand where you need to improve your behavior and suggest how you should do it, then you have to do 90% of the work on actually restructuring your behavior.

    Any advice you get on this forum will be even worse than therapist can give you, it is not custom enough to tailor to your specific situation, something that would take hours of questioning to understand.

    You will be left will 15 different suggestions and even some of them are useful will you go do the remaining 90% of the work that has to be done?
     
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