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Loss of attraction after PMO - Is it normal?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Sortinglife1234, Jun 21, 2019.

  1. Sortinglife1234

    Sortinglife1234 New Fapstronaut

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    So I have just relapsed after 12 days which is so frustrating. However right after PMO I noticed my attraction to women disappeared.

    Before I was looking at insta nudes and was aroused however looking at the same nudes I can't get as aroused

    Is this normal guys? Also anybody got tips on beating 2 weeks. I keep relapsing between 10 - 12 days.

    Any help would be appreciated :)
     
  2. Sortinglife1234

    Sortinglife1234 New Fapstronaut

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  3. Hi, I experienced something similar, my libido went way down and I thought my masculinity is ruined. I was really worried until I realized NoFap has it's own term for it: flatlining. (look into the definition here: https://www.nofap.com/glossary/)

    It helped me to see that, as that means a lot of people where dealing with the same issue. Currently I am feeling way better (even though I had a reset aswell) so this is not a lasting feeling.

    I can't help you for beating two weeks, as I haven't made it further either. At that time I always keep thinking that MO would be healthy and that I should do it.
    My advice I can give you: Stop looking at Nudes/pornographic or sexual content. If you are really horny at 10-12 days and think about opening sites like that, start to M instead without looking at nudes. I know this might sound counterintuitive, but it helped me to get away from Porn completely.
     
  4. Sortinglife1234

    Sortinglife1234 New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for that, I appreciate you taking the time out to reply. It's good to hear I am not the only one having that issue

    it could be a flatline then, sucks that I relapsed but I will have to bounce back. Thanks for the advice, I'll take that on board :)
     
  5. ImpureHuman

    ImpureHuman Fapstronaut

    I think it's a good things you lose interest looking at insta nudes..
    I can't find this as a problem.
    Brain is adjusting to the change.
     
  6. Sortinglife1234

    Sortinglife1234 New Fapstronaut

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    What I mean by that is, I will be looking at Instagram half new women and then I would PMO and then when I go back on Instagram I feel like my attraction is gone and I can't pick out what I like in a girl if that makes sense.

    But I do need to get rid of all social media so I don't trigger myself next time
     
  7. Theninjathatjokes

    Theninjathatjokes Fapstronaut

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    I suggest doing it on hard mode...I know its easier said than done and it will take a while.I'm a newbie myself actually,But a lot of my friends went through something similar and have found success after doing it on hard mode. Only after a certain period of time would your brain get rewired and you will be able to feel arousal when you look at insta nudes. Again it is not advised to look at any sexual material when you are rebooting.Your brain has been desensitized by the prolonged porn usage(I'm assuming).Hope you will be able to make it,this time.Do not lose hope if you won't.As long as you have the will,there is always light at the end of the tunnel.Good luck.
     
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  8. ImpureHuman

    ImpureHuman Fapstronaut

    I get that..

    I think for me, whenever I watch P or P-subs, some images imprinted on the mind to M later, some images or position, size, oiled, boobs, bouncing, act in wild/rough nature. I delete the videos after watching but the images stay in the mind, download later sometime. Mainly P subs, an actress, wet, oiled contents or girl on girl things like that. I assume you also have that.. but when I see that next time I lose interest seeing that. Then I use the images in the mind. actually you may be comparing the same images in the screen to images in mind, obviously, you never get the satisfaction, can't get aroused

    Problem is in the mind bro. sensations and attraction, and arousal play a little role close to climax, most of us can't have the same sensations and climax of a non-addict because our reward system in the brain already had the increased dopamine load many times and desensitised. we are trying to override that using different genre of porn content and P subs like to say wet or rough sex, slow motion(in my case). I can't control it sometimes. mindless thinking..

    try to avoid all of it .. I think that the way to fight this. Our mind used to trick us with different thoughts.. know them and fight back..

    I think this makes sense ..

    you are at and young age.. find balance in life. I wish I had the understanding you have at an earlier stage..
    stay strong brother
     

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