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What’s On Your Mind? Sex? Or Something Else?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Deleted Account, Jul 5, 2019.

  1. Jul 5, 2019 #1
    Deleted Account

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    Thought this might be an encouragement.

    So I’m very close to 52 and have been struggling with PMO for decades. Got serious about quitting in December 2017. It’s hold on me has decreased considerably.

    Not where I want to be but far cry from where I was.

    One of the big helps has been picking up different hobbies. It’s a big help because not only does it give me something to do but it also gives me something to think about when in a “down time” and temptations come around.

    For example, I like going out and doing videos/taking pictures of cruise ships here in my area, San Francisco Bay Area, as well as traveling to San Diego and Seattle to see them. When I’m not going out to see ships, instead of laying around and thinking about sex and looking at porn, I can be planning my next outing to see a ship.

    My videos right now kinda suck but I still post on YouTube. I look at them and spend time researching and thinking of ways I can do better videos.

    And there are other hobbies I’ve picked up where I can be thinking of ways to get better when I have some “down time” in my schedule.

    So give it a try. Find hobbies that interest you and start thinking about how you can get involved in them. Think of ways you can get better once you start.

    An important part of kicking this habit is filling our minds with good material. Need to get away from the obsession with sex.

    Hobbies of course are not the “cure all”. They’re one of many tools in our tool box to help us kick this addiction.

    Hope that all encourages someone out there!
     
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  2. Jul 6, 2019 #2
    sfmark12

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    Well to be honest, here is on my mind most of the time and it is kind of sad that I look at it in a third person view. I want to be in a relationship, and I imagine me being in a relationship with girls that I know(for additional info I have asked some out, some said no, some I am just friends with) because now that I have quit Porn and Masturbation I just want to be with someone, I would give them so much affection they probably wouldn't believe this is happening. I have learned a lot on this journey and still am. And I want to share my energy and knowledge with a significant other. It is very bad to fantasize about this stuff and I will tell you why. First, after I imagine me being in fantasy land and hop BACK INTO REALITY I see that I am not in any relationship I get very sad and lonely and want to cry and think that I am not good enough for anyone. Secondly it does not help me, love me. It is loving someone else but not me. My supervisor at work told me that I need more self love, because I opened up my insecurities to him and he said I have to practice more self love, then when you love yourself for who you are you can then love someone else. That is what is on my mind recently and in order to combat that I exercise a lot, I am struggling to pick up a language learning hobby and it is failing miserably, but next week I begin my craft(Mathematics) at school and I promised myself I would utilize math for my career. Sorry for the long post it has been in my head for a while now and I feel like I need to go back and talk to my supervisor about this(I call him my second Dad).
    Edit Again: I wanted to add this to get it out of my head before I go to sleep, I saw the movie Yesterday, which was good go watch it, it ended in a happy ending. I actually cried at the end(won't say much) because the guy got into a great relationship and then I reflected at my own life and how I do not have that. It was horrible I did that because I can't compare myself to a movie that is purely fiction.

    Edit: Also dude you should post your Youtube videos here, let see what you got!
     
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  3. Jul 6, 2019 #3
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    Here’s the Disney Wonder Cruise Ship, I caught it in San Diego.



    And from there you can go to my channel and see the others.
     
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