Does PMO make you feel inadequate?

Porn definitely perpetuates the idea that women like to be 'nailed' by men with huge members. It makes sense that you now think this as well....and your friends do too. When 70% of women cannot orgasm through penetration then you can see that this idea is hardly true. You can also see that your friends may be bending the truth or their partners were faking or they happened to have sex only with the 30% of women who can orgasm through penetration.

Stop PMO, get yourself in a real relationship with a woman and everything will make more sense for you

 

And guess what....hardly any women (maybe no women) like to be jackhammered for 30 minutes like you see in P, either. Don't measure yourself against what you see on that screen, friend. Not in any respect. It's all fucking lies.

 

#1 worst in bed is the guy who believes it's the size of his tool that gives women pleasure.
The more he brags about it, the stupider he probably is between the sheets. Posturing and BS.

 

My husband felt the same way. He expressed that he felt inadequate because he felt small. Now that he has stopped PMO, he is so confident. He knows he isn't the biggest (bigger than average but not P big) but I don't want the biggest. I'm sure most of the women here don't judge a guy based on the size of his unit. Confidence in yourself (in and out of bed) is a really sexy trait. It will get better and you will probably stop judging yourself so hard throughout the journey. Good luck!

 

I am not surprised your hubby is confident if his cock is "bigger than average".

 

Haha, this is Blondewife's hubby here. Don't think I'm swinging a salami or anything, lol. If you look at global averages I'm "above average". I mostly say it to make myself feel good, heh.

 

Congratulations, lol. I am below average. I say it to keep humble.

 

Humility is valuable currency in life, friend

 

Size does not matter. At all.

Also, I have yet to see a guy in porn that I consider even vaguely attractive. Of course, for me, attractiveness in a guy is only about 10% related to looks. 90% of it is personality and intelligence. Guys in porn look like they're a-holes.

 

Hello The Learner,

I'm a bit new to this site, but I wanted to leave some support for you! I have to agree with all the aforementioned -- porn absolute sets the most RIDICULOUS standards, for both male and female. As others have shared with me, camera tricks, lighting, particular angles and (most likely) surgical enhancement definitely plays a role.

I can understand how your self-confidence could have dwindled and feelings of inadequacy have surfaced, but as others have said, no woman really wants to get pounded by a large penis if he doesn't really know what he's doing. And on top of that, sex is only sex if there's no emotion or connection behind it. It's repetitive and can even get boring halfway through.

Besides committing to being PMO-free, try doing things that make you feel good and confident - try a new hobby, invest in working out, surround yourself with people who uplift you, make you feel good! As a woman and girlfriend of a guy with a P addiction, I've found nothing but great support from the people on this forum as well my as significant other. It's inspired me to get back into the gym (and maybe crossfitting again, for all you crossfitters out there!) and start feeling good about myself.

Anyhoo, sorry for such a long message, but ultimately I wish you the best! It may take time, but it's worth it

 

Yeah. In most porn I've seen, the guys have had giant genitals, bigger than humanly possible at some points. I just have average size so it's kinda...well you get the idea. Also don't listen to your friends. People lie about their size all the time because they feel inadequate themselves.

 

First thought:
What in the living H is wrong with people? You don't need dumb stuff like that in your life. Don't take it as rejection, take it as a girl who's helpfully showing her colors to you before you wasted any more time on her.

Second thought:
You know, if she's been giving you "maybe-not-really" signals, she COULD be not so interested in you at all, but interested in collecting your dick pic to share with her friends.
You don't believe me. Yes, girls do that too.
It appears to be a sort of a brag, like, "Look how many guys I know who have shown interest in sleeping with me! ...not that I took them up on it."
I used to work with a chick like that. She'd sidle up to other gals with her phone and be like, "Hey, check this out, I know this guy, and this guy, and this guy, and I partied with this guy, and if you want me to hook you up with any of them just let me know! Their friends can send pics too, if you want to see what you're getting into beforehand!" (Ummm, no thanks. I'm good.) I doubt that there was much of any real-life sex coming out of this weird dick pic pokemon game, but Lord knows where those pictures ended up once they started circulating. So, word of caution there. (Personally, I don't get it.)

 

Don't worry about it. Focus on the non-stupid ladies you could court and maybe get some real loving out of.

Nothing in the world is quite so maddening and addictive as mixed signals from a potential partner.

The only thing to do for the sake of your sanity is to walk away completely. It's difficult, but you'll be better off.

 

Well good riddance to her! She sounds like a real gem

 

Yes PMO does make me feel inadequate, sometimes I feel like I would be a bettter lover if I was bigger, but really I don't think much would change.
So much about good sex is from the connection between two people, there is so much more to it then just genital mechanics.
I think sometimes in this P influenced culture women will trick themselves into thinking that a dude who is hung is better in bed, because that is how they are conditioned to think, obviously the mechanics will be a little different, but I don't think that there is that much difference unless the person really does have a two foot member.
Also more experienced women tend to care less about size. I've noticed.
Perhaps they are more in tune with their mental process and what turns them on that it becomes less important.

 

Thanatos, look up. Read. You have at least 4 actual, real, live women telling you to get over the preoccupation with size. Are there some who think it matters? Of course there are. But it's not nearly as many as you think. And anyone who is making the decision on whether they want to be with you based solely or even substantially on the basis of the size of your unit isn't worthy of you anyway.

I don't care how big your junk is. If you know how to use it and have a real connection with the person you're with, it doesn't matter.

Oh, and while we're at it, pretty much everything else in P is a lie, too. Virtually no real women look like that. Hardly any of them want 30 minutes of PIV, even if it is in 5 different positions. Lots of women don't O from PIV very often (if at all). Not all women scream and moan like a P actress. It's all a performance. Surgeries, makeup, lighting, film editing, acting. All fucking lies. Don't give them power over you.

 

Woman can easily O from PIV, but, if your member is too large it makes it very difficult. Size does matter, if you are too big it makes it harder to achieve an O from PIV. First of all, the average is 5.25 to 5.5 inches (larger in Africa, then Europe with Asia being the smallest). These are averages, as long as it is long enough to penetrate and deliver sperm then it will continue genetically. Humans have enormous organs compared to all other primate. If you cannot penetrate down to the point where you pubic meets hers it is almost impossible for her to have an O from PIV since you are not making contact with the clitoris. I know there are tons of exceptions (G-Spot, large being able to stimulate without pubic bones meeting, etc.). But for the mast majority if you penetrate down to the pubic bones, and a good rhythm, and everyone is comfortable and you gave her adequate foreplay and you can last for 5 to 10 minutes, she should O from PIV every time.

They are not as large as they seem, there are all kinds of tricks to make them appear larger than they are, P is so fake I cannot even go into it again. It is the most terrible example of human sexuality ever, in fact, it is the furthest from it except there are sex organs involved.

My wife has known many women that quit a relationship because he was too large. When she was younger she dated a donkey and said it was a big hassle, not comfortable and took forever for penetration. And never once came close to O.

So, stop watching P (it is not real)! Start your NoFap now, reboot and if you are not in a relationship, get in one. Learn how to make love and satisfy her, and size has nothing to do with it (unless you are way too big or way too small).

 

Also I want to add that the average size is the dominant trait chosen by natural selection.
If a larger size is the most ideal then why isn't the average larger?
There could be a thousand different reasons for it, I don't really want to post them here, because of controversy.
I'm just saying... theres a reason why the average is the average.