HELP needed: Rebooting tips needed

I recommend taking a zinc supplement, at least 15 mg a day, preferably 25 mg. It has been scientifically proven that men with low testosterone levels have regained a normal testosterone level after using heavier zinc dosages for a few months.

I've been sober for the past 7 years, not a drop since, never used any drugs. Daily meditation of at least 20 minutes has helped me a lot. When outside I tend to look at women in the face or just completely ignore them, no matter how they look. Sometimes of course the eye can wonder, but being strict about it makes nofap a lot more effective since you're not fantasizing about what I consider a vanity.

What I've found also effective is that I don't watch any movies or tv-series, just documentary films like nature or history documentaries. I'm essentially removing any external sexual triggers and stimulus out of my brain.

 

Still suffering from ED so no progress on that front. It's going to take a long time after 20+ years of PMO.

 

Don't overthink it all. Keep it simple. Don't do too much at once.

1. Don't try and rush, there's no quick fix, let yourself heal, exercising, socialising, hobbies are perfect for letting yourself heal naturally. If your concerned about performance with your gf then learn new ways of getting her off, take your time teasing her, building up slowly touching and tasting, you don't need a working penis to please her in the bedroom though hopefully that will come later (how do lesbians do it). You may well find that taking the time to arouse her slowly actually takes the pressure off of you and allows your little man to grow in confidence. Read a book on how women really get turned on.
2. Not sure, certainly some supplements would be useful, eat healthy, less sugar, less alcohol. Just avoid medication that stimulates unnaturally like v pills, people become dependent on it to point where their body will only react to the medication, just like how your wiener only responds to the unnatural stimuli of P. If the pills aren't working for you any more then there's no point in even taking them, stop immediately.
3. Meditation - Concentrate on your breathing, become aware of your body and notice your feelings and let them flow, don't block them, follow them to their completion, bad feelings can transform into something else if you just notice them without judging, let them happen. Get 90 days of no P and M done before you see a sex therapist so you're starting from a heathier mental perspective.
4. No stimulus, not sure, but could help with meditating. I don't think its a beginners thing, more a way to take meditation and creative thinking to a new level.
5. Its summer and women are everywhere - My perspective is that you want to retrain yourself to have a healthy reaction to women, you've wired your brain through P use to only react to extreme P or to watching sex through a messed up third person perspective of watching other people doing it. Real women are naturally stimulating. Notice, admire and appreciate away in the real world, but whatever you do don't let it lead you to P and M. If a girl in a bikini is getting you horny use that horniness on your partner.
6. Don't try to rush or force your healing, live a healthy lifestyle without P and M, that's the first step, get this handled first, if there is no progress at all after a 3-6 month streak of absolutely no P and M then re-evaluate. Try to do too much at once and you'll set yourself up to fail.
7. Prem - Reframe how you think about, use it as a compliment about the sexiness of your partner rather than a failure on your end, we teach people how to react to us, so let her know that she got you so hot you couldn't control it, frame it as a positive thing, then give her plenty of touching and attention so she stays warm and ready for round 2, you'll likely last longer next time. To women sex is more than just penetration and ejaculation. Eventually when you've gotten used to being overstimulated naturally by real women your prem should go away naturally.

 

We've said it all. Going hardmode, adequate sleep, diet, exercise, socializing, anti-ruminative activities (practice gratitude, forgive yourself-letting go of shame/guilt…) and well, time. There's really no shortcuts here, it takes 6-11 months to get better (not healed). Listed activities will make your reboot more bearable by reducing withdrawal symptoms to some extend.

Omega3 fatty acids (large quantities), Zinc, Vitamin D

Practicing mindfulness, yoga (prana yama, yoga nidra - pretty much the same thing as mindfulnes ), cognitive behavioral therapy (if it's attainable to you)

No, but I don't see how it could sensory deprivation help with your reboot. You don't intend to be in it for multiple days do you? Long term sensory deprivation can drive you insane.

No. You can watch as much as you like, IF you have enough self-control to not P/MO on it. You have to learn how to control your actions by not reacting to outer stimuli.

It totally can, but it's long hard ride. You have to regrow D receptors and gray matter in your prefrontal cortex. As I said, brain scans suggest it takes 250 days on average (180-313 days) for a brain to physically recover (not counting on potential underlying psych issues you've tried to self-medicate with PMO. For 99 % of us, PMO is just out drug of choice, not the main issue. If that's also your case, you have to address this issues too or you'll relapse sooner or later).

First complete 180-313 healing process and then start to worry about this problem, which really isn't a problem. After having 1-2 quick orgasms, you'll be able to give a long ride.

 

I'm fortunate to never have had PIED, I PMO'd daily since early teens to 27, got lucky with girls here and there but wondered why I never had the courage or desire to chase them in the real world and why I was so unemotional, it seemed obvious why when I read about nofap, I was squirting out my desire to pixels.

When I first started nofap I was surprised that by 3/4 days or more of streak I would start getting aroused just from talking to a girl and sometimes she didn't even have to be attractive (its something about eye contact, not sure if that turns me on or whether I'm sensing their arousal and its affecting me), this hadn't happened since I was a teenager, occasionally I'd even have to end the conversation and move away before I got a full on trouser tent. This is why I'm certain your PIED will fix itself after long enough of avoiding P and M and keeping off of the meds. Keep going my friend.

 

This is really great advice! Take note people this will really help anybody

 

Yes. If you have glasses, I'd suggest not wearing them when you're out on the street.

 

This process takes time to heal. Everyone on this forum is looking for ways to “speed up” the process but there’s really no such thing other than treating yourself right including working out, eating right, getting good sleep, and being around people who are positive influences in your life.

I know it’s not my place to give relationship advice on this forum but your needs should take priority over someone you aren’t married too. If she is going to make you feel bad about yourself now over this problem imagine what being married and living with this person will be like when other problems arise.

 

awesome reply post, thank-you for the wisdom brotha. this is very concrete advice here.

 

woah, you got a keeper if she's telling you to try sex with other women. you can get abunch of them maybe lol. or maybe that's not a good sign.. i hope some girls are that kool with sexuality. ive heard about the surrogate sex thing and just laughed but hey if it works then ok.

 

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This will surely help