Marriage is just for religious people?

I want to get married, and I am the biggest heretic on the planet. I would do it for her, not for the religion.

 

I think making a big deal out of a marriage would add an important commitment factor. It's not just religious people that hate when the spouse just decides to run off or cheat or whatever.

 

I am non-religious.

 

I suppose. I was baptised but I really don't like any kind of religion, it is use here by hypocrites as an excuse to abuse power.

 

I used to be a 100%, without any doubts, believer in the Bible. Made a profession, active in church, and participated in all the bullshit games that goes along with it. But this is no longer the case. I think the Bible has great principles for living, but I believe only some of it. No longer believe all of it in a literal sense.

My attitude about Christianity and all religions is now cynical and jaded. I think there is a God but I don’t think he gives a flying fuck about us.

I say all that because I no longer believe that the marriage contract and ceremony is necessary. If you love someone and want to commit to them, then do so. Don’t need a piece of paper.

I think marriage as we’ve traditionally seen it, at least in America, is a creation of religion.

 

I agree with what you’re saying. It’s a means of trying to control and manipulate others.

 

Marriage is crucial!

Listen to Jordan Peterson as he discusses marriage. I’d do a poor job trying to summarize his thoughts so google his thoughts on marriage.


@Cool I Can Use Spaces , you should really listen to him. He bridges the gap between religion, science, evolution, psychology, and morality.

I’m an atheist and I am enthralled with his take on religion and have so much more respect for people of faith and faith itself now. And no, I’m not converted and never will.

If your on this site, you need Jordan Peterson in your life

 

The country I live in.

 

I understand your disagreement with Peterson and more so with my statement “you need”
Let me instead stand on my own two feet and qualify my opening statement “marriage is crucial”

Marriage is crucial as it is a formal commitment that you will persevere with this relationship though good and bad times. If you or your partner can walk anytime times get tough because the relationship isnt good anymore, all marriages would fail. Why? because all marriages have times tough enough to justify divorce. Something must bind you more than mutual benefit and enjoyment. If we (the couple) know that we are in it no matter what (withstanding abuse) then we can trust each other with truth and failures. Porn issues is one of those ugly truths. If marriage holds commitment even when two individuals don’t like each other very much then they have the chance to meet on the other end of that conflict and continue a happy, nay, beneficial union. Don’t distrust ancient practice just because it’s ancient. Marriage keeps couples and thus families working together for something greater than the sum of the parts. FAMILY.
We are on a Porn issue/addict website. Be careful considering all the beautiful women in the world that justify staying single. That’s the chase, that’s what Porn simulates.
If a women is worth devotion, prove it, tell her and others you mean it. Promise something, promise something big. Don’t flirt with infidelity and keep an eye out for another or a door open for escape. Commit and sacrifice.
Here is the natural question that arises; is Porn infidelity?
Does marriage require absolute fidelity and is that good/fair/realistic?
Is that why your asking about marriage, because you don’t like the idea of fidelity? That is why I hesitated and that is why I’m on this damn site dealing with these damn issues!

I’m not naive enough to think all married couples are better off than unmarried couples but it does show each other that no one else is above them. It means it is not a relationship that’s good enough for now, it means it’s a relationship good enough forever.

Let me please challenge you to listen to Peterson’s discussion on fatherhood.
Warren Farrell- the absolute necessity of fathers.
More ammunition for your theory I belong to a religion but I wouldn’t suggest it if I didn’t think it had merit.

 

Marriage to some religions are seen as natural (marriage between non-believers) while some are considered sacramental (marriage between believers).

Some natural reasons to get married would be:

• Marriage is a public declaration of ones commitment to another person. This public declaration is not just to tell society that this person loves that person but to also tell society that they are off limits to only each other.
• Marriage also makes you accountable to live out your vows to the person you love. It sets boundaries which help give the relationship an identity within society, an identify which becomes known as a family once children are involved.
• Marriage is also for the benefit of children so they can be raised, ideally, by two committed parents. The parents example of fidelity and commitment then teach the children what a healthy relationship looks like so then they can one day have and experience the same thing.

You can literally say that about any ideology.

 

My sister always said she never wanted to get married because she said she liked knowing she could take off and leave whenever she wanted without any legal tie downs. So in her eyes marriage is a level of commitment she never wanted and has nothing to do with faith or religion.

 

When I’m in a better place financially and also mainly mentally from this PMO rubbish, I will definitely be marrying my partner. I personally have never thought of religion having anything to do with marriage, and rather it’s a binding contract that shows an absolute commitment as well as bond to each other.

 

So for as who belive in God marriage is big thing. Becaouse we confest in frot of the God. And that is the point. To confest in front of the God. Ask for His blessing, and help and guidance.