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It's a good start, but you're not a gun (trigger) and it's not strictly an accounting matter. I'm not saying don't do those things, but you might start looking at the issue with a broader view, like both your life and the life of the relationship in all the details. I want to make a distinction between the latter and being a good boyfriend in a generic sense. You're unique as an individual and your relationship is a unique one as well, sooner or later you will probably want to look at the details. One thing I don't agree with as far as the usual addiction recovery philosophy is the sort of one size fits all approach. I think it may be like that in the beginning, but as time goes on it evolves into dealing with your life and it's more and more specific and customized - no reason not to acknowledge that from the beginning even if a lot of the practices are fairly standard for now.

 

I can see if I can offer helpful input in terms of any coaching, though I suggest you avail yourself to the entire community to see what makes sense to you. As far as accountability I don't have time for that in my life at this point, but that should be even easier to come by. Just start journaling and reading other peoples journals as far as coaching, some info can be gained indirectly that way, and in time you might have thoughts like "so and so might be a good person to ask about THIS" when breaking down the details of your situation and what you're specifically working on.