Tired of relapsing.

I hate giving advice on these forums, I find advice is subjective with stuff like this and not everyone takes it the same way.

Dude, take a look at what you just wrote. You wonder why you can't stop, you don't even give yourself a fighting chance. Take a hard look in the mirror, tell yourself to stop fucking around, and get serious. You wanna sit in a helpless pit, cause you sure as shit aint gonna get out of it with this attitude you've got going. You already know everything you need to know about why it's bad, you know how it feels when you relapse. You have everything you need to know, you know everything we all know. What is stopping you? Seriously, ask yourself what is really holding you back? Start respecting yourself, and take yourself seriously or you are gonna keep feeling helpless and unreachable.

I relapsed a few days ago, and I picked myself up, went through the reasons I relapsed, and moved on with my life. No one, NO ONE, is gonna assist you as much as the person staring you back in the mirror. Power, Strength, Determination, Confidence, Motivated, WORTH BEING APART OF EXISTENCE...

I'm being intense, and I know that. If you feel this is unhelpful, discard this, do not allocate parts of your memory to it. You want change, well change aint gonna come knocking on the door. You make it, here, right now, and you change.

God fucking speed dude, you will win. All our paths have Victory as the last sign we walk past. How long are you gonna keep walking for?

 

You damn welcome mate. I hope other people can also read this and be empowered today.

 

"Dude, take a look at what you just wrote. You wonder why you can't stop, you don't even give yourself a fighting chance. Take a hard look in the mirror, tell yourself to stop fucking around, and get serious. You wanna sit in a helpless pit, cause you sure as shit aint gonna get out of it with this attitude you've got going. You already know everything you need to know about why it's bad, you know how it feels when you relapse. You have everything you need to know, you know everything we all know. What is stopping you? Seriously, ask yourself what is really holding you back? Start respecting yourself, and take yourself seriously or you are gonna keep feeling helpless and unreachable."

Thank you NFi. It was really a bad day for me today too. I relapsed 4 times today. I was thinking those exact words Warrior17 said earlier but now after reading your reply I feel a little better. Tomorrow is a new day, a new attitude and I know I will win this!

Thanks again!

 

You can even win this relape.
To make something positive out of your relapse will give you the strength and courage and smaller chance of relapsing next time. So instead of beating yourself down ask yourself: What if this situation is a gift?

What if it is a gift?
Let me give you the example of me. I relapsed after 42 days when I first tried. I brought a girl home and she didn't want to have sex, super frustrating. So I saw everything and did some things with her. But no s&%$$#. So I was so frustrated and horny I couldnt handle my self and I basically chose to relapse and PMO 3 times that weekend.

How can I see this relapse as a gift, because I gave in. Yes, perhaps I was too weak, too stupid, too whatever, but I lasted 42 days for the first time, I experienced superpowers and I witnessed myself being confident again! Only to feel extremely bad about myself because I relapsed on day 42 instead of day 90 and ignoring all the positive days I had been strong, I resisted those urges.

Moreover, What can I learn from this relapse. Be aware of the chaser when a girl didnt satisfie me or I am horny and frustrated. This is now identified as a trigger. How am I going to change this next time? I am going to get under the shower IMMEDIATELY and take a cold one for 10 seconds. This will train my willpower and reset the urges immediately.

So basically it is this for you:
- Learn to be grateful (this is conscious choice) and compassionate for yourself!
- What if this situation were a gift? What if it was somehow meant to happen as it happened to you and the universe pushed you to make a positive meaning out of it.

I am convinced the reason why people relapse after relapse is they are being too hard on themselves.