Need help

I'm sorry man. I'm just getting back on track after a long period of no PMO. Sounds like you have a freaking hard time keeping focus and doing well in the things you care about. That would make me feel pretty discourage and depressed. That sucks and I'm in this fight with you my man.

I had depression really bad earlier this year, and that's when I PMO'd hard. I've gotten out of it and it's really helped my focus and determination come back. I can share with you what I did.

First, I got a therapist for a few visits to get my mind on track. If you don't really like the therapist, don't go back. There are some awful ones that should just turn in their license out there.

Two, I had to stop lying to myself and how terrible I was. And I had to give myself a break. You can do what I did. I had 5 things that I gave myself to do. That's it. 5 things. I'd choose them the night before, and once I'd complete them, I could relax and take it easy. It's hard to go full steam when you don't have motivation to pick up the fight, but you have to do something.

Three, I kept track of my successes every day. I would write down 5 successes at the end of every day. And I would really celebrate and give myself credit for them. They can be the smallest of the small successes, but you find 5 every day and you give yourself credit. If you're going to get out of this, you have to love your self and start building confidence back that you can get shit done!

 

Hey Dude,
There’s no doubt that PMO gives me brain fog. when I am clean I am much clearer. MUCH clearer. You have probably seen that as well. Identifying things for what they are has been really critical for me recently. You may have heard of the acronym HALT. Hungry Angry Lonely Tired. All these are totally triggers for me, and also cause the brain fog. Which in turn makes me want to PMO. I try to reduce those as much as possible by getting good sleep, eating right, etc. But more importantly when I recognize that I am suffering from one of those I am more likely to act out and continue the downward cycle. Cause that’s what it is. One thing leads to the other.