Help? 16 years old

I think i can help u with this

 

It's always a choice to jerk off. You can say no. It may be hard not to, but with resolution it's possible

 

Ajay,

I'm sure you've heard of the addiction cycle, but if you haven't, I'll explain it. It starts with the first time. When you do it the first couple of times not much is really happening mentally. But once you start doing this every day, your body starts to expect it. It wants you to do it. The more you do it, the more your body expects it. Also, the more you do it, the harder it will be to stop. If you are not Catholic already, I recommend praying to God. It might sound 'crazy', but it helps a lot. Develop a relationship with him, and look at how Jesus lived his life.

I hope what I said will help you. I will pray for you.

 

Ajay, find things that interest you, replace the time you masturbate with those things. Set your goal in your mind and heart. I agree with eoj you need faith. I almost walked away from my faith because of PMO. This is not easy no mater your age. Don't worry about counting days at first just make each day in it's self a day without masturbating. My prayers for you. Keep posting we will help.

 

One huge advantage you have already, Ajay, is that you're only 16. If you can beat this now, you'll have almost your whole life to live in happiness and be free of this addiction.

One warning: this will be difficult. This will probably be one of the most, if not the most, difficult things you will ever do. You have to be willing to face those demons that make you turn to masturbation for relief. You have to work hard for happiness. But I assure you, if you put in the work now, your future self will be incredibly thankful.

Keep us posted!

 

Hi Ajay. You are very welcome here. Most of us were masturbating to porn every day or many times a day when we first came here. It takes balls to admit your life is in a mess right now. If you haven't done so already, watch this video and come back here to discuss how to go about taking on the challenge of beating this addiction, right?

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hey mate, have a look at this link, you might get some help.
www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/tips-and-tricks-to-fight-the-urges.34787/

 

Hi Ajay,

I'm your age and can relate to you in many ways. PMO is destroying you on the inside like many others here. But you haven't noticed that you've taken the first and biggest step: understanding that this is a problem and coming here to Nofap. We're all here to help. Private message me if you like.

Au revoir

 

Hi Ajay,

Spend some time reading the below link
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0

This might open up advanced topics to you, but its worth a read..

My prayers are always there for you.

Regards.

 

This is awesome that you're realizing this at 16. I wish I had! Make the change now and live your life fully instead of just drifting through it. Congrats mate, there are plenty of resources and people to help you here.

 

I agree that noticing this problem as early gives you much better chance to overcome it, with some important decisions and support of others. God can really help, as he helped me once in the past through a prayer of a married couple, and even though I continued M'ing, I did it less often and it wasn't compulsory anymore, the inner feeling about it was much different, and I could be without it for weeks. (Today is my day 60 without PMO.)

I was fighting with consuming sugar about 2 years ago because I noticed I like chocolates, candies, biscuits etc. too much even though I didn't eat them much. I started eating these every even day and in every odd day I ate natural sweets like honey, fruits and nuts. After about a year I found that I don't need those sweet things anymore and continued mostly with natural sweet things only. So if you have the addiction too strong, try to stay clean every odd day, and do it only once every even day, and from there, later, try to move on.

Also, I suggest to give up something else that you like or that is convenient in everyday life. See, how it works, what it means to give up of something you like (but which is not bad in itself). If you could do that for some time, you are "prepared" for nofap too, I think.

 

Hey buddy!

I am not sure I can give you the best advice, but what I can say is usually for me, I feel the urge but if I give it some time (maybe a few hours) it goes away.

3 days is a long time, keep it up! If you think about it, it took you 3 days of no fapping, but it will take probably 20 minutes to completely throw your progress away.

Just try to keep yourself busy, try to talk to people and spend time with your family.

I myself have been feeling down lately and have had a lot on my mind. The weather sucks and it's windy and spring like (my least favorite time of the year).

I went for a jog yesterday and puked but as weird as that sounds I felt better, haha.

I know I have days where I look at myself and say "Man, I look good!"

And other days "Man, I feel terrible."

I think it's natural to feel this way from time to time, but try to keep it that way for a short time and just keep yourself busy and your mind on other things.

Do you play video games? Any hobbies?

Goodluck buddy hope I helped and be strong!

 

That is a good point that urges actually go away. I also had a strong fantasy few days ago, even that strong that it could have easily ended with an orgasm without any touching at all, but next day it was just gone. This has been repeatedly so. Every time is a lesson (of self control) and in long term, I guess it is possible to just get used to it by merely ignoring it.

 

What I learned is that if I really have something on my mind and am angry about it, or am %100 sure in saying/doing something if I give it a day and sleep on it it makes me feel differently about it.

A good night's rest can do wonders on your mind. That's why so many choose to meditate. Being able to chill and relax changes your way of thinking.

 

I used to watch porn and masturbate almost daily, after the urge is satisfied used to feel bad about it and had decided not to do it for some period but again used to break it on weekends.
But this year I had taken it as challenge for 90 days, initially first week I engaged myself in to different activities was busy, but after that was feeling frustrated,stressed and was thinking was forcing much and that's the threshold but again kept on remembering watching P and doing M and O just gonna waste my time and had to regret.
Read good books to avoid stress, do workouts for more time and make your food on your own after workout. You gonna get engaged in it in no time.
Still u feel can't resist think about porn like u r watching some pixilated gals who have no emotions and are forced to do it.
Just deviate your thoughts for few minutes you will be normal, think about a list of things you never did pen them down, do them to master like reading, writing, going to new places, blogging, gumming, running and so on