Please Help I can't shake this problem I am having

I have always masturbated every other day my whole life, I am 49 now. It wasn't always watching internet a lot even though that is a issue, I also did fantasy In my own head. I never thought about it or planned it I just did. In January of this year I had a hemorrhoid banding procedure that went wrong and made it so I couldn't get a erection for a few weeks, I thought this was permanent and got really upset, had panic attacks and everything. Ever since I had that procedure I now plan on the time when I will masturbate and sometimes work my schedule around it, basically I am always thinking about the next time I will try and I get anxiety leading up too it. Also now my head is so much in it I can't get a erection without Sildenafil even Masturbating. I have tried to stop for several days and I can't sleep as well and can't stop thinking about the full and tingly sensations I feel down there and that I need to empty out and try. I basically have become OCD about it and it is causing me a lot of anxiety around the clock.. I am married and sex I even function worse. I know I need to stop for a while and just leave it be but I can't the urge to constantly think about it and act when I plan is so strong I can't shake it. What advice can you guys give me to try and get back to somewhat normal.

 

Thanks for replying, I agree that is what I need to do and been trying. I think the procedure I had traumatized me so much and got me thinking about something that always just came natural that my anxiety and head are so involved. Every time I try and not do it I get so much anxiety and no matter what I am working on I can't stop thinking about it that I end up popping the pills and masturbate, even if I am not really aroused and it is all to get rid of the anxiety about the whole issue, it works for a day or so and then I am right back in the same loop. I am on Zoloft low dose to try and help but all it does is make erection harder. I need tricks or something to break this loop. I think I have made myself believe that I need a release every couple days or I will be uncomfortable but in reality I think it is the addiction and anxiety making me uncomfortable, I know this but it is so hard to control.

 

Hi, I do need to not be alone but I find myself planning on times I can be alone to do it and I can't stop myself that is really the biggest issue, me and my wife have a great relationship, sex has died down in the past several years as we have gotten into are late 40's but has been really bad since I had the issue in January, when I am with her even if I take the ED meds and I work my mind will at some point focus on if I am working and it will go limp. I do talk to her about it. She listens and tries to help but she doesn't really understand the obsession I am having with masturbation or urge she says at least for her the desire is not that strong. Her reaction a lot of times is it must suck to be a guy. I think my mind just wants to go back to my old habit which came easily but now that I had that procedure and my head is in it makes it all hard instead of natural. I don't really get a erection and what my mind is doing is obsessing thinking the next time everything will be great and it will be back to normal. Thing is even on the occasions where I don't have to take the ED meds and am successful I still focus on it constantly after a day or two. I probably needed to break my masturbation habit before but I never thought to much about it because it just was a thing I did without thought but now I am obsessed.

 

Good idea I just need to get these thoughts out of my head and stop doing what I am doing, it is so hard and I keep going back to the same thoughts and habits but I need to somehow dig deep and stop.

 

I agree I need to just break the habit even if it is just by a extra day and build from there. It is amazing the power of habit and when the mind focuses on something how hard it is to stop. When I had that procedure that affected me it made me think about what it going on down there constantly and here we are almost 6 months later and I still am constantly thinking about how I feel down there. I wish I could forget I even have a down there at least for a while. If you guys have any more tips I sure would appreciate them.

 

So I gave in this morning but I was planning on doing my regular schedule this evening, now I am going to try and stop as long as I can and break this routine. Wish me luck. What tricks do you use when the urge is overwhelming?