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Counseling with PMO

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Bucklord, Jul 20, 2019.

  1. Jul 20, 2019 #1
    Bucklord

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    Has anybody sought counseling while rebooting? Do you have any advice for getting the most progress from it?

    I just left from a very seriously relationship and i'm finding myself again. One of the things I've decided to do was to get help understanding my mental health and coping skills through a professional psychologist.

    Some of the things I'm going to work on is dealing with loneliness, being able to sit with my more chaotic emotions, etc.
     
    Bucklord, Jul 20, 2019
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  2. Jul 21, 2019 #2
    ruggerdoug

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    @Bucklord, I've been in counseling through all of this. "All of this" for me was a long, legal separation and a 4 year battle with PMO.

    Counseling has focused on my mental health, coping skills, depression, anxiety, and relationship skills, but not directly on the PMO / sex / masturbation addictions.

    My counselor has been tremendous. He is a cognitive behavioral therapy specialist and not an addiction specialist or a sex addiction specialist. But I needed the things he's helped with before tackling the other two.

    He and I are actively talking about whether it is time for me to move on and get a specialist that focuses on these two other areas. Not sure where it will go.

    I would not be as far along if I had not had objective help -- all my friends are valuable but they have a subjective view of me -- a counselor largely won't.

    I'd encourage you to use one. But be certain about what they can help with and what they can't.

    Good luck!

    RD
     
    ruggerdoug, Jul 21, 2019
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  3. Jul 22, 2019 #3
    Bucklord

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    Thanks for your story.
    I think one of the biggest skills I can learn and will focus on is dealing with the emotions of loneliness, and coping.

    Porn has been my go to coping mechanism, and we all know how that goes.

    I'll have my first visit tomorrow, he's a CBT as well and not an addiction specialist so i'm glad you say this.
    Thanks again for your support.
     
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