If only women know....

I feel so akward when I go partying, the few times, boys being hip n'cool drinking, and some that + tabaco, whamen just drinking and some smoking. Hire I am, just chilling doing nothing, me and my water bottle. Fuck that I just go 2 do some walking, better than the putrid smell of those places full of living rocks.

 

Fuck that noise. Women should be more responsible? Maybe you should be more responsible and not be creepy/touch yourself & just appreciate their beauty. Hell, even better, flirt w them instead of lusting

 

What an interesting thread... The way I see it, we should put our rational part over our instincts. Of course, some women dress up in an oversexualized way, but we need to fight this issue of ours. The more you look at them, the more you crave their bodies, so staring for too long isn't a good idea. Try to change your focus at the very time you feel triggered! With time and discipline this can be done!

 

I can dig where you are coming from. When it comes to this subject it seems like everyone has lost their mind.

For every guy fapping there's a girl (or guy) snapping. But that part's not wrong? The dealer is morally superior to the addict?

I've acknowledged I have cammed. I feel I was pretty clearly in the wrong there. I've made myself a temptation for others. That's my bad. I shoudn't blame my audience.

But our society makes that easy to do- people beautiful/ desirable/ confident/ whatever enough to get someone else to look at them are "better" than the lookers. What rubbish- vanity is not chastity.

Or maybe you are wearing overly revealing clothes in public. Same problem- vanity is not chastity.

I see women dressed inappropriately in public all the time and I have never once seen a man or a boy literally start PMOing in public in response. Nothing like that ever happens.

So why is it that when the topic of female modesty comes up, the blame is somehow shifted to men. People say that men must "control themselves".

Control ourselves how? In these cases, we didn't do anything. Maybe get an erection, but that's an involuntary biomechanism. It's not a choice. The person dressing inappropriately is the one making a choice. Blame her (or him, if it is a male who is underdressed) or don't blame.

 

I read about this!

 

Accept the things you cannot change.
Have the power to change the things you can.

 

I just don't think that we should blame women for our problems & impulsivities.

 

@didodido & im not superman. You can see my counter

 

The funny thing is, one of NoFap's benefits is being more social especially towards but tbh ever since I was born I was always awkward around people and only more recently I realize that I'am really shit at socialising. I'm doing NoFap because I dont want to be so dependant on porn and regain my happiness before I started PMO. So I'm not really expecting to be more social but just to be less dependant on the explicit material.

 

Thank you , I'am starting to work on it, I want to lose weight so I'm trying to cut down on what I eat, and this morning I started jogging

 

Yeah I want to work on how i look, also funny how you try refer, having love for yourself, as "self-love" XD sounds like your recommending relapsing.

 

ik ik, it's just that some people refer to masturbation as "self -love".

 

I think the trouble is many of us have conditioned our mind to where the only way we appreciate beauty is by masturbating to it.

I do think @didodido was being a bit ridiculous calling you superman. I thought he was referring to some user called Superman. Lol!

 

In my opinion, both genders have their limits, We see the major addicted people to PMO are from males (this is a fact), which means they are more attracted to the other gender sexually. We can see a lot of women nowadays complain about sexual harassment or Flirt, but not much of men facing harrasment or flirt from females, maybe because the majority of females dont care much this stuff ? this is why females should be responsible about what they wear in public, going with tight pants, half chest t shirts or less will naturally effect males (we cant deny this). Now this does not mean if women wear better clothes will stop every single man from flirting (Some are sick and action should be taken against them of course), but surely it will eliminate the amount of teasing to females from the other gender, it is safer for them. On the other hand a man of course maybe attracted to girls, so reducing sight from both genders at each other will help too, it is a sort of balance.

Also there is a difference between a beautiful and a sexy woman, tight pants and t-shirts that show the woman's chest clearly and her a*s, this is never beautiful, no man will say "that is a beautiful......" they will just look at it in a sexual way.