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Two years and a half in nofap with one relapse, now having a crysis.

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by phwrancesco, Jul 24, 2019.

  1. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys,
    like the title says i've been close to be the best Fapstronaut in the world for the last two years and a half (LOL). I reached 20 months in my first streak and now i'm in a 206 days streak without masturbating. Going nofap is not a problem at all for me.

    At this point i've been in a relationship for the last two years and i still am in a relationship with the same girl.

    Our relationship is going pretty well, we're both working in order to have a family soon and we both are really into this. Sex is great, i've never missed an erection in every situation or mental state i've had sex with her.

    Fact is that in the last month i've been feeling an incredible sex drive towards other girls i meet. I'm deeply satisfied with the sex i'm having but i simply want to have more girls.

    I'm escaleting for the first time in looking to escorts websites, witch is something i never did in my life and this is kinda concerning me.

    Is wanting more girls part of human nature?
    I'm struggling hard in handling this situations and i'd like to know what do you think about it.
     
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  2. GregHill

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    Hey

    It’s likely normal to want other girls

    But looking at escort sites sounds like your heading in a P substitute direction.
     
  3. Orpheus12

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    It’s normal to want others, but do not look at escorts. This is potentially catastrophic for your life.
     
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  4. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the reply! I'll think about it!
     
  5. phwrancesco

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    Thanks for replying and for the advice!
     
  6. Let me say what I heard from Jordan Peterson in one of his youtube videos:
    A man is doing so to have the choice of as many women as possible. But then, for the greater good, he should choose one. And the harder your sacrifice, and it seems hard, the better the reward will be.
    Now, I don't know how old you are, obviously, your first girlfriend is unlikely to become your last. If the relationship is all fine, then the rest is the craving you can control, if you really want.
     
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  7. Bail on the escort websites dude, once your start you won’t stop. Write some stuff down that you love about your girlfriend and learn to appreciate what you have man, it’s just normal as a human to be attracted to other humans. Maybe you’re scared about having a family soon there might be some deeper issues I’m not saying there is but maybe it’s the feeling for yourself that you’re about to settle down and you feel like you’re missing out. Write down what you appreciate about you girlfriend and be grateful for her and trust me man it will turn around.
     
  8. Yup, don't do the escort sites. It isn't what you need in life.
     
  9. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    thanks for the reply! i'll think about it!
     
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  10. phwrancesco

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    that's probably true!
     
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  11. ReLvr

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    Try and channel that libido to your partner. I've been in many many relationships and no matter how good the sex is there is always more to discover. Prostitutes is definitely the wrong move. Maybe some exciting new positions, role play with you woman would be a good first step. Also, avoid triggers and opportunities that might put you in a position of temptation. I'm new to this so I can't speak from experience other than to provide some anecdotes about my sexual past. There is always more possible sexually if you delve deep (excuse the pun)
     
  12. Strength And Light

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    Any chance you are having some nervous feelings about this? It's very natural for men to have fears about starting a family - it's a big step in anyone's life. You may be fantasizing about being with other women as an escape to the uncomfortable fears of being in the relationship you're in.
     
  13. phwrancesco

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    thanks for answering!
     
  14. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    thanks for answering! i don't think this is really the point. The fact is that i don't think i'm made to stay with the same woman forever, sexually speacking at least. That's just something that doesn't make me happy anymore.
     
  15. Rehab101

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    I have my first and only gf for 5 years. I shared the same feeling that I want other hot girls. I was not as capable as u to do like 2 years on free. Props to u on achieving that.
    Thet thing is u have to accept that feeling and not to reject that. The more u fight it the worse it grows and you will blame ur so for that. Try to redirect those urge into energy to be better use elsewhere.
    If you are not strong enough, let your so know. See if u 2 can work together. Otherwise u may have to have multiple partner in order to learn the grass is aleays greener is just playing mind trick on you.
     
  16. Luvspin68

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    If you are looking in escort sites and fantasizing and thinking about other girls you are not ready for this committed relationship.

    Please break up with her. It’s not fair to her. And then go get those urges out of your system.

    And then maybe, you should consider starting your family.
     
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  17. fapequalsdeath

    fapequalsdeath Fapstronaut

    it is completely normal, i don't know a man who doesn't crave this. Is it ethical? Well, you can always ask her if she will approve it, most likely not. And then you must take a decision is fucking other women more worth it than you GF? Good luck!
     
  18. ryguyuplift

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    Ya I guess it's normal. But kick this habit ASAP dude. Other girls are NOT the answer. You will realize this FAST when you fuck up and lose your girl. Porn gives us this fantasy that you can just have girl after girl after girl. it's not like this in the real world. We're lucky to get one and stick with her for life. This is the reality of life. I know for a fact that if you escalate and fuck this up you will be BEGGING for her back and BEGGING to get back what you lost. Having a legit girlfriend, steady sex, and a family. Fuck porn, fuck escorts. Dude it's not going to compare in the least to having a wife and children.
     
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  19. phwrancesco

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    thanks for the reply!
     
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