I'm Afraid

the only thing you should be afraid of, is not trying!
and don't hate yourself or put too much pressure on yourself, it's a process.

look at this that way, I wish I could only fap once every 12 days, that's a huge step forward to regain control on your life!
right now I can't hold myself more than half a day without fapping

 

Hi, I just put a post on my journal about a similar problem I had.. mainly 11/12 days was pretty consistently my failure mark.
I set up small goals of only 5 days at a time and just worked to achieve that.. I’m clubbing it. 50 days tomorrow and getting easier.
Anyway it may be worth a try. Just mark 5 days ahead only as your goal and when you make that .. mark another 5.. sounds too simple but it has made a big difference for me. It also improves your motivation as you build a record of success rather than looking at a distant future goal
Hope this helps.

 

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I't very hard I know...but the fact you have been strong for 12 days is a big achievement! I am new to this forum, today could be my first day that I chose not to fap. But it's only 10.30 am and I am struggling a lot...so well done to you!

 

Cool man..best of luck

 

Hmmm..
Well to be brutally honest. The short answer is yes and no.. it’s not so much of battle right now.. but I’m starting to think it may not ever go away completely. At the age I’m at, porn has been a twice daily(min) ritual for 30+ years one way or another and it’s just really imbedded.
I was thinking about this today..

I don’t feel the urge to rub one out like before BUT it is still there..I do still think about scenes.. which I thought would go but they don’t...
BUT instead of acting on it I do know to catch it and change the mental channel or even just ride it out without acting.
It bothers me though because I think it’s only going to take one time of weakness and I’m back on the merry go round...

The tape strip idea works really well for me as I see how far I’ve come and it looks real close to the 90 goal now... positive motivation.

But here’s a problem.. 90 days was my goal.. what then?
Do I celebrate by masturbation (without porn) or am I just done with it?
I hate porn now and think I’m done with it on principle.. I just don’t want to be that person I was...

I’m sorry I can’t give you a super positive ..I feel great and don’t ever think about PMO or Porn answer but it’s just not true.

What I can say is that I really like myself a lot more now and I don’t want to lose that feeling self respect... you can’t underestimate that shit.

I am definitely attracting women more now and I think that has a lot to do with my attitude towards them and also my feelings of self esteem are coming out more in other areas of my life.

In a weird way.. I don’t have women on a pedestal anymore or at least as something to be attained.. not sure if that’s a good description but I think when everything is about looks and sex appeal you tend to really objectify women and it really affects your interactions.

The other thing I would say that has changed the most is that I’m busy as all hell in my life everyday because I’m really focussed back on my personal goals and not wasting time on Porn.

This is also very attractive to women in the real world...

So although this may not be what you want to hear.. the bottom line is that even writing it, it makes me never want to go back..

And yes I do feel a whole lot better... but not cured.. I hope this isn’t too negative but it is my experience.

... and thanks for your question it’s motivated me heaps thinking about how far I have come.

I hope you get here soon as well

..that’s another thing 60+ Days doesn’t seem like much now I’m here.. it really isn’t that long looking back.. hope this helps
Best of luck with your goals✌️

 

I think many here feel as you do, VanGuy. This needs to be done one day at a time, not looking at it as 90 days or 6 months or forever... I, too, feel more confident that I can avoid P, but M calls my name often, and if I start, I tend to want to focus on something that will help arouse me, and if I start searching for anything, it will become obsessive again...
I know this will be a struggle for a very long time, and after doing well for 80 days and then many falls with less days, loss of motivation, etc., and getting back on track, I think this is possible! Praying for you all.

 

Thanks man, yes that’s my concern.. every time I failed It started the same... masturbation.. then maybe I’ll just watch that nice porn over there... next minute I’m back watching the porn equivalent to crack cocaine... anything shocking.. funnily enough that’s something I’ve never mentioned.. a couple of times I failed I went straight back into the real hardcore stuff just to get the most value for money before I quit again.. crazy stuff.
I believe it is certainly possible.. I will 100% get to my 90 days.. after that I’m hoping I just get so busy in my life that I let it go and get on with enjoying the real world..

 

It's possible to stop, it takes effort and discipline, and anyone can start to practice these two attributes. No rocket science needed!

 

Hey welcome to the forum! Nice to have you alongside us fighting the good fight! : )

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encouragement/support.

You should also highly consider creating a public journal (in the appropriate section[<-- link] for you ) and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along on your journey!


★People love to communicate in the profiles section and also the journal section. These are 2 of the most important sections. Also, we could always use your helpin supporting members around the forum and in return you most likely will receive some as well!


Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!